Finding ourselves in a new country with no friends or family we really only have each other. He's already settled in a routine, going to work, meeting new people,etc. I just started looking for a job. Feeling a bit useless(know I'm not), just need to hear it every now and again. Don't have any friends and overall just feel sorry for myself. Feel like he doesn't understand how lonely and depressed I am. He chooses to ignore it because I'm just being a silly woman. He gets home at night and then sits on the internet the whole night, while I cook, clean, etc. No company, no help...Starting to get frustrated. How should I handle the situation? Should I stick it out till I also have a job and friends and feel part of society again?? I'm not really the 'through my toys' kind of girl. I get too emotional sometimes.Want to react rationally.Maybe some guys can try and answer my question...Rational girls as well. Am I just being oversensitive???HELP!!
2007-11-22 23:12:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no you are not over sensitive and your man sounds like my hubby!! we moved abroad too and he had no intensions to help me out with meeting people. i just did myself then. i went to my neighbours,introduced myself and asked them questions like,when does the rubbish get picked up,where is the next patrol station/supermarket or cinema etc. that way i met a few people. and once i had a job i had my hubby moaning that im never in lol
2007-11-23 00:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by kc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think your being oversensitive. If you are in a new country and you don't know any folks yet, that can be stressful. However, I do believe that you need to sit your husband?? or bf?? down and explain your feelings to him. Choosing to ignore your problem is really not very nice of him, nor is coming home and spending a great deal of time on the pc and ignoring you. He's not being sensitive to your needs. Best of luck....
2007-11-22 23:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Racer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting your new job will give you the opportunity to make new friends. You could look in the newspaper and find some clubs or organization that you might be interested in joining. Stick it out. Also, once you are working, tell him that he will have to share the chores with you.
By the way, what is he doing on the internet that takes all night?
2007-11-22 23:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it sounds like you're having a bad time.
Talk to him about it and how you're not getting along socially with the neighbors. Tell him you feel isolated. Just talk to him about it, don't need him to do anything about it yet.
If you're angry about cleaning and cooking ask him if you can switch nights when you do that, and get a job.
If he's ignoring your loneliness it might mean he's upset that you aren't happy or he doesn't realize how unhappy you are.
2007-11-22 23:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by ran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not oversensitive i shall say. but ur husband should definitely give u more time. the best u can do is find a job, get new friends and start all over again. untill tht time, hang on lady................dont let go or fall apart.u can do that
2007-11-22 23:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Niel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how alone you feel?
2007-11-22 23:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋