I met this guy today who is so incredibly cute. He said he thinks I'm sexy.
We were talking for hours.. just about our lives etc.
We then got onto the topic of why my ex and I broke up a week ago. I said it was because I got sick of him always being tired and falling asleep.. not wanting to go out, and complaining whenever I went out with my friends.
Im 18, I want to get out n have fun being single. He said hes the same n doesnt want to get tied down cos hes young (20).
I thought this meant Im not a potential gf.. so we got onto the topic of "casuals" and we both have never had one before and arent into it.
So.. I guess thats a good thing right?
He said i should pop his "casual cherry" n i said 'in ur dreams' then he laughed n was like "im only messin around :)"
Then he gave me his number and said 2 msg him.
Does it matter that he said he doesnt want to get tied down - or does everyone say that?
Itd sound desperate if he said he wanted a gf..
2007-11-22 22:54:43 · 8 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey he is a 20 year old, that is out having fun, and fun at that age is to get as much action as possible. If you like his company, go out with him, but he does want casual sex, he's a guy.
2007-11-22 23:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all--you decided you wanted to do a little living and have fun--also give some thought to your future and maybe furthering your education--that is a real prioroity. Second...you meet a guy to talk to and the very first thing he says is you are sexy and the talk goes to sex. What respectable people do that?? He may not be a player but he knows he has a good chance to nail you and not have the committment or the responsibility. Yes it could feel good--but what about the possibility of a baby--it does happen--or a disease--feels good for a few minutes then you get a fatal disease--or a lifetime infection to ruin your life with a GOOD man...think it over--you better make the right choices. I am sure you are cute and all--but that was an awful first encounter--sounds like a guy that could take advantage of you. Have some self esteem and stand up for friends WITHOUT SEX--bet you never see HIM again.
2007-11-23 07:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Player. He said what he wanted- to have casual sex with no strings attached. You shot him down. He tried to play it off with 'it was just a joke' when it clearly wasn't. He gave you his number, because you're worth the game time. He'll keep trying until he believes you're not going to give in. Then he'll disappear. It does matter that he said he doesn't want to get tied down, because he is telling you exactly what he wants and what he doesn't want. Does he have to write it down and sign on the dotted line? No, everyone doesn't says that. He could have said that although he isn't looking for something serious, he is open to having a relationship if the right person came along. That doesn't sound desperate. Desperate would be if he said that he wanted a gf and decided on the spot that it was you.
2007-11-23 07:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Midas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a spy for your ex-bf.
Your ex- is not over you and this guy is reporting back to your ex- Give him some bad information - Tell him you are seeing someone else and see if the news gets back to your ex- I'll bet it does.
In any event this guy does want to bang you - in spite of being a friend of your ex-bf. He is not serious about you and likely has a gf already. You are just something on the side.
Don't play, but if you do. Use protection.
2007-11-23 07:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by ARM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have been playing along with whatever you were saying so as not to make a fool of himself, or he could mean he isn't really looking for a long term relationship. If you like him, there's no harm in just having a bit of fun with no expectations from it. The best relationships always come from things you don't expect.
2007-11-23 06:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by foxyfoxfox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to be friends.. perhaps a relationship with no string attached. and besides u just got out of a relationship .. darling u need a break.. how is it that u are already jumping in start new relationship. U have a fear of being with out a guy in ur life. try and fix that first
2007-11-23 07:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...well first of all, i think if you just met this guy, didnt know him at all, not even numbers, and he's talking to you abou t sex and relationships and casuals and if you would be his first casual, i dont reallt think he's good news.
anyway, to me he sounds like a player, and the fact that he's cute shouldnt really influence you.
just enjoy being young and single, but be careful.
Good Luck :)
2007-11-23 07:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by BlackSheep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes interested in you but doesnt want to make it too obvious
2007-11-23 07:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by xo_cinderella_xo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋