Do you really need strangers online at YA to tell you what you already know?
Oy vey.
Since the man is a liar and cheat, you need to make him your EX-boyfriend.
And I have to say that having your friend play "private detective" for you is juvenile and melodramatic. If you're meeting disreputable men at the website you met the current one, don't you think it's logical to refrain from continuing finding men there. And really now, you have to consider the safety of your three children -- their need for safety and security utterly trumps your desires for companionship and romance, my dear. If you're unwilling to live up to that responsibility, then you need to put them up for adoption.
2007-11-22 20:30:47
·
answer #1
·
answered by The Snappy Miss Pippi Von Trapp 7
·
2⤊
0⤋
While he may not be a liar and a cheat, he doesn't sound like the best of men. Are you dating exclusively? If so, you may have fun with him but honestly any guy that is trying to pick up someone while dating you is not that honest.
I would assume that anyone who stays the weekend and takes you and your kids to a chocolate factory is sending off the vibes that he's serious about you, but if you're not dating exclusively, then he's done nothing wrong.
Maybe you should have a little chat with him (don't bring up your friend) and ask him how he feels about you and if he is as serious about you as you are about him (but do it in a calm way.. as if you see lots of potential and want to know where he stands -- make it a cute "moment" and not the inquisition)
That all being said, I think it's kind of shady about what you mentioned that he never has money for paying for things. If he's not paying for things now, it's not going to get better. I don't think men should pay for everything all the time, but copping out and saying he is broke is never fair.
So - making a long story, even longer -- you need to evaluate if he's worth your time to begin with. Sounds like there are a few issues to deal with here.
Sorry I don't have a clear cut answer but good luck!
Oh one other quick suggestion - you said you dated lots of cheats and liars and have gotten hurt in the past -- maybe you could consider dating a different type of man - who knows you may hit it off.
2007-11-23 04:35:41
·
answer #2
·
answered by finzup77 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
Sorry baby I understand u there. I've had that happen to me too. DITCH HIM NOW. He thinks u have money cause u have kids to care for. He thinks ur child support will help support him and not the kids. He's a big user my darling. There is alot of men out there do the same thing. Maybe Ur sister feels he's a user. Tell him ur money goes on ur kids not on the dates. He ask u out he pays for it all. If not then tell him u have no red cents to ur name.
A real man won't want to have a lady pay for any dates. He would have respect for u and ur kids. Good luck and think be4 dating another one.
2007-11-23 04:36:03
·
answer #3
·
answered by hillbillytweetheart 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
Misslone, the scenario you've just painted is a vivid description of a guy who is not proud of you. If he could deny you online, he denies you everywhere, and definitely, you don't mean anything to him.
He seems attached to you because of his pursuit for material gains. All that men do is influence the feminine vulnerable heart with cajolries and antics of love to deceive them. But, where someone's love for you cannot be felt by people around you, then it's not love.
Pls, ponder on this: in every relationship, there are handwritings on the walls which indicate it's success or failure;all we need is being sensitive and observant enough to know when they appear. And be courageous to move on with our lives
Misslone, it's time to move on, so, be focused and save yourself from being a victim of circumstance.
2007-11-23 07:50:21
·
answer #4
·
answered by everforlove1 1
·
0⤊
0⤋
When I started to read this I thought you were about 12 years old, judging by your maturity level, but then I get to the part where you have kids. What ever you need to do to develop emotional maturity, you need to do that as soon as possible!!! Your kids need a mother to act with emotional intelligence that (sorry to be blunt) you don't seem to have. Anyone that who has a history of dating cheats and liars, and hasn't already dumped this obvious looser needs to figure out why you do this, and fix it! Maybe counselling is in order?
2007-11-23 04:44:49
·
answer #5
·
answered by Pat D 4
·
0⤊
0⤋
Man I know that you desire a man but maybe you should take some time out and just chill. Dont bring any men around your kids until you have been dating them for at least 6 months and dump that asshole. There are plenty of men out there. You are a single parent use that money for your kids. Do some outings with your kids. Get you a dildo and massager and learn how to please yourself. Occupy yourself with your kids and when time is right a man will come. He will take care of you and once he takes care of you then introduce him to your kids. Separate wait a year. Get to know yourself.
2007-11-23 04:54:00
·
answer #6
·
answered by Skittles 1
·
0⤊
0⤋
Girl... he is using you for your money. I'd run as fast as you can :) It sounds to me like he's still a kid trying to have someone support him, while he's out having fun and games. Initially, I was going to mention that since you two had only been dating a month, maybe he was still trying to make sense of the relationship... but that all changed with his comment to your friend about tying her up and melting chocolate on her. This guy is bad news. I'd break up with him before you get too involved and he breaks up with you.
2007-11-23 04:32:54
·
answer #7
·
answered by Anonymous
·
2⤊
0⤋
The main thing that I zeroed in on with your question is you paying for outings, meals etc. and this is just terrible and he doesn't have good manners or ethics in my opinion. He seems a "loser" type to me and don't sell yourself short with a no good guy like this. When people are mean about money they are mean about other things too. Set higher goals for yourself.
2007-11-23 23:39:58
·
answer #8
·
answered by veraswanee 5
·
0⤊
0⤋
He's a cheat.Obviously.Leave him.Be thankful that you found that out.It may hurt and grieve you for a while but I am sure that you will pull through the ordeal and be really glad that you found out the deceitful heart of his in time before you splurge much more further on him, in time,emotions and money.He's a waste of your precious time,my dear.
2007-11-23 04:36:34
·
answer #9
·
answered by Anonymous
·
1⤊
0⤋
I am sorry I do not mean to be unkind. But are you so dull that you cannot see that he does not care a hoot about you.? For Gods sake forget about him
2007-11-23 04:36:12
·
answer #10
·
answered by Anonymous
·
1⤊
1⤋