I have a girlfriend who i've been living with for 3 months now and I love her or I think I do..She left her family, friends and city to come live with me and loves me so much but now I dont feel the way I used to feel about her..things between us is becoming like a routine now and she talks about a future that i dont see myself endulging in...It gets worse as I am talking to someone who seems to be more fun than my girlfriend..I dont know if I should end my relationship or tell my girlfriend about my feelings and let her decide..
2007-11-22 19:55:42 · 5 answers · asked by Jake97team 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have had fights in which she has threatened to leave (i mean serious threats where all her bags are packed and I had to talk her into staying)...but I'm scared of being sad like i lost something important if she leaves...
2007-11-22 20:02:30 · update #1
truth needs to be told for both your sakes....dont waste her time....she ll get over it
2007-11-22 20:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by jasmine d 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you realize how selfish you sound? You dont want to lose her because you dont want to feel sad? I mean, you're saying you dont feel the same about her and rather than saying you dont want her to leave b/c the feelings you had arent there, you're worried that you'll be sad. What do you argue about? Maybe try to fix the things you usually argue about and then decide whehter its worth it. If you feel things are becoming routine, get out of it. Go see a play, cut work to go to the park with her, do sometihng spontaneous.
It seems like you felt happy with her and wanted to spend more time with her, but now that you realize how hard it is to live with someone rather than dating them, you're not willing to follow trhough with the effort needed to form a strong and healthy relationship. So maybe consider leaving, or at least taking some time off
2007-11-23 04:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by kingofblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just what happens when you get comfortable and settled. If you left her, it might just happen again after you find someone new. After you settled in, they'd start to get "plain" too. I'd rather be with someone I knew so well that they were boring than someone I didnt know or relate to at all.
2007-11-23 04:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sands 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please tell her your feelings. You'd be saving yourselves from a relationship that neither of you want. Maybe the two of you don't have as much in common anymore? Maybe you should take up a new hobby...together. I dunno. Just talk it over with your girlfriend.
2007-11-23 04:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by blueJay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is something called commitment...
and ppl who give me thumbs up....do it only if you're not a hypocrite.
2007-11-23 04:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋