I met the girl of my dreams in August 2007 and have been dating since September 1st. I'm 21 and she's 20. Everything is going well, we communicate well, we love eachother, we like the same things and pretty much everything is perfect. I've met her parents and her mom and grandparents love me to death. I've met her dad and have had conversations with him and my girlfriend tells me he does like me. We've talked about the future and we both definitely see eachother getting married etc etc. I've planned a trip for both of us to go on a vacation close to New Years to Montana ( where I orignally grew up at and i recently moved to California in Feb of 2007) I want her to meet my family and see how she likes them and vice versa. By that time we will be dating for 5 months, and I have the whole proposal worked out and I'm going to propose to her in Montana with either writing "Will you marry Me" in the snow, with branches or carve it in a tree and all that jazz. Is it too soon or no? Thx
2007-11-22 19:24:03 · 13 answers · asked by ryananderson86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You know, when you strongly feel that it's the right time to tell her then do it. Just be true to yourself that you have no doubts. Because yo want your marriage to last forever.
Make sure, that you aren't just too absorbed with your relationship because in reality, things get different when your going out 2 years than 2months, you know what I mean?
If your absolutely sure this is the right moment, then go! Good luck!
2007-11-22 19:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by pamela15_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband proposed to be 3 months after we started dating and we were married 2 months later... most people said it was WAAAAY too fast... which, in a way, it was... but it worked for us... and we've been married two years now and are still as happy as we were in the first month of dating. You really have to base your decision off of your relationship and how you know/think she feels about you. If it feels right, then go for it... but if you are any way "iffy", you should probably wait. I will say though, since it is quickly, you don't have to RUSH into the wedding... enjoy the engagement... (my husband and I were pushed into a quick marriage because of the military)... Good luck!
2007-11-23 01:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you will be together forever. But it is very probable that you will not. You are still high on the love chemicals in your brain- it's a great feeling, and you should enjoy every minute of it. But don't rush anything- take more time and make sure that when that rush wears off, you still have enough to keep you together. And if you do, ask her to marry you then. You have a lot of life ahead of you, don't be in a rush to get through it.
2007-11-23 01:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1 year wedding anniversary is in 2 days and i have known my husband for less than 3 years. When you know, you know! i knew he was the one for me and we just talked about getting married and then we went and chose our rings together. After that i said to him - now you have to propose to me properly and he said "will you spend the rest of your silly little life with me?" haha, it was so cute and funny but here we are, 1 year married. So goes to show that time is not everything. Sometimes you just know! Go ahead propose! Hope she says Yes!
2007-11-22 19:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by nessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with the first post - you are asking a bunch of strangers if you should propose to your girlfriend. Of course nothing wrong with that, but if you have to ask us that question, that means you're not confident enough in your own decision. So honestly, the answer I would give is yes, it's too soon.
2007-11-23 19:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my grandparents got married after knowing each other for 2 WEEKS, and i got engaged after being with my fiance for 2 months.
my minimum time would be 1 hour :)
really, it's about how you two feel and not about time. if it's right, you'll feel it. i'm a hopeless romantic and think that we just "know" when it's right. why waste all this time dating when you know you want to get married and start a life together as husband and wife? if she says she wants to wait then just wait, but it sounds like a GO to me.
congrats in advance!
2007-11-23 13:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to you and where you are in life.
I got engaged when I was 20 and my Fiance was 21.
We dated for a year and half before he proposed.
I wish you the best of luck, but don't forget to ask her father first.
2007-11-23 03:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Early engagements cause problems- pretty much always. It adds stress to the relationship, it changes the dynamic and makes things more "real". I suggest get her a less expensive "promise" ring, and let her know that you'll be formal engaged when you're both older if she consents.
2016-05-25 02:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably too soon for a serious engagement with a set date for the wedding... but I see nothing wrong with getting her a token ring (a promise ring - could be a small diamond or could be a gemstone or could be a claddagh - whatever your taste is) and asking for her permission to propose when the time is right..
sounds romantic to me, and if all you are asking is permission to propose down the road, why would she say no? if you ask for a proposal now she might tell you it is too soon and turn you down..
2007-11-23 16:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really think she is the one, then go for it. My husband proposed to me after just ONE MONTH and we are still together six years later, sometimes you just need to seize the moment! When it's right it's right, no matter what the length of time is!
2007-11-22 19:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋