do i tell her that i really like her or let it go, help me out her guys im screwed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-22 19:09:18 · 8 answers · asked by Milkman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do nothing jsut be there for her. tried in the past nothing seems to work to get her out all u can really do is be a friend.
2007-11-22 19:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jay Argentina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyhey, you're not a loner! I started out with that. Well, sort of. You don't tell her. I believe you shouldn't, because that would 1.) look as if you are undermining her relationship, which is bad and 2.) it would really be futile, I mean, she's in a relationship. Telling her you REALLY like her is like disrespecting the guy and the girl's decision to be together. Even though they're in a rocky relationship, it's still a relationship. A car that is in bad condition is a car nonetheless. So I think respect is due to them. But the thing is, you really don't have to let her go. You can perhaps anticipate if they might break-up (but really, don't wish for it, because that's still bad), but also, don't count on it. You might get frustrated that they don't break-up. But fight the temptation. Don't wish for the downfall of their relationship.
But, we have a little bit of an exception here. Respect is not the only thing that exists here. Love also comes into play. In my opinion, if you think that their relationship is being violent (i.e., the girl is being beaten up or abused by the guy) then, I guess it could be debatable if you can say that you like her. But personally, I think that if they are in a kind of relationship where the guy abuses the girl, then I might just advise that you introduce yourself.. Love is over respect. (don't get me wrong, when i say love, i mean true love, not just those petty emotions).
So to sum it all up, here's my suggestion: If she is being disrespected by the guy or abused, then if you want you can go and tell her that you like her (although do not ever expect that she will like you too, it doesn't follow). But, if they are just having some fights without the added physical violence or stepping over the rights of the other, then i suggest you don't tell her you like her. It's just respect for their decision to be bf/gf that we're concerned here.
2007-11-22 19:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by nj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im was kind of in the same situation except she likes me more than her BF but she started the relationship before i told her i like her.. it worked out for me i told her how i felt and eventually they broke up and now im in a relationship with the love of my life it might be hard but you have to tell her how you feel and even if she doesnt want you she wont be mad shell feel good that someone cares about her so you in a win win situation if you tell her good luck
2007-11-22 19:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by j.j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not make a direct move, but I would be VERY supportive of her, and maybe throw in a phrase like, "I just want you to know, I care about you SO much, since you're such a wonderful person.... so if I can help you out in any way, give me a call".
2007-11-22 19:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Marj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that if she needs someone to talk to that you are there. Then once you have gooten her trust, tell her how you feel. Just remember that she will be on the rebound, so don't give up your heart too soon, or you will be hurt!
2007-11-22 19:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for herr and she will appreciate it.
and maybe you'll have a chance once her relationship
goes down the drain
2007-11-22 19:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her when shes down and cheer her up. when things are done with her and that other guy, thats where you jump in.
2007-11-22 19:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it.
2007-11-22 19:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by jinnui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋