Why can't people just have a sexual relationship and feel good about it without all the religious rules?

Answer 1

you mean like friends with benefits! ohh yeah I've been saying that for a while now!

Answer 2

The reason you don't feel good about it is maybe because of a residual reaction to some prohibiition of some religion to which you used to belong. Or maybe you know that your sexual relationship is wrong (one or the other or both underage or married), and your conscience is bothering you. If the second scenario is the case, it's got nothing to do with religion.

There was a reason for all these religious rules about sex in the first place, you know. It wasn't just some preacher trying to spoil your fun.

Babies get born when people have sex, and in the old days the baby and the mother would starve unless there was a marital relationship to keep the man providing food and necessities of life. I know it's not that way anymore (necessarily), but that was the original reason.

Religion per se has nothing to do with it, other than the church trying to make sure no babies starved because of irresponsible parents.

Answer 3

Hi there,

The world (non Christians) say if it feels good, do it.

You are either being led by the flesh or by the spirit.

If this question asked is by a non christian then I can understand, for the truth is still vailed for it is written in Corinthians that Satan roams like a devouring lion to destroy faith (1 Peter 5:8); he makes people sick and diseased (Acts 10:38); he tempts to sin (Luke 22:3-4); he blinds the minds of unbelievers.

However if this question was asked by a born again christian then he/she should know what the Lord say about fornacation:-

Corinthians 6:9 in addition to other things say that adulterers and fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God...

So, if it feels good looks good (the lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life - the 3 firing darts of Satan) then you should resist the Devil and he will flee from you.

You don't have to do what Satan offeres you and paint the evil as right because if feels good. Sin is nice, so why should you then worry what Satan offers you. You will have to choose for otherwise Satan will catch you in his web.

My own paraphrasing: "notwithstanding inflation," then Jesus says :the wages of sin is death"

So, work it out for yourself, do you want to do what feel right or are you going to be obedient and do what Jesus says is right?
Take Care

Answer 4

Well certain limitations do apply... such as rape and other things. Some sickos think rape is a sexual relationship. Rape is bad in bible standards. You don't have to specifically follow the bible or church rules. All god ever asked is we be good people to one another, not blow eachother up, or other bad things. Sex is the act of making love and you should be able to do this without a problem and without worry. Religion isn't and shouldn't be like a cult. Some people read to deep into things.

Answer 5

Many people have good sexual relationships and feel good without religious rules.

Answer 6

Taking your question to its logical conclusion:
"Why can't people just live their lives and feel good about it without all of the religious rules?" Sounds like a good idea to me.

Right on Sara! Ain't it great to be a free-thinking person :)

Answer 7

Why can't they have two or three sexual relationships at the same time and feel even better. Better yet just have sex with anybody on the street and feel immortal.

Answer 8

Perhaps you should have added information to this question. You are implicitly asking religious people about their religious approach to sex. If your question isn't directed at religious people, then there aren't any religious rules non-religious people observe. Hence, your question would be incoherent.

Religious people, by definition, abide by their religious beliefs; and if their beliefs include the regulation of sexual behavior, then they wouldn't feel good about violating them. Your question is akin to asking vegetarians why they can't just eat meat and enjoy it without all the "rules" their belief system evinces. Sorry, but your question doesn't make sense.

You do not even define "sexual relationship." We are, therefore, left to guess what you mean.

The North American Man/Boy Love Association thinks a sexual relationship between men and boys is great. Do you think they should be able to do so and "feel good about it"?? I'm not asking for a discussion; I'm demonstrating why your question is faulty.

I can ultimately only speak in defense of *my* religious beliefs, so here goes: We believe the best environment to raise children is with the mother and father present in the home. The relationship between the parents should be a loving/committed relationship and that involves marriage. To "love" without commitment is contradictory and transient relationships send the wrong message to children and undermine the strength of the family.

As to homosexuality: Males are born with reproductive organs which are designed for....reproduction. That can only occur heterosexually. Females are born with...ovaries & wombs. Do I have to get explicit? What are they there for?? Biology (product of God's creation) demonstrates the plan of nature with respect to sexuality. Any other view betrays subjective bias.

Against this it is argued that homosexuality is either a choice (question of liberty) or the result of genetic variation. It appears the vast majority of homosexuals insist they were born with that orientation which makes "choice" impossible.

In reply, we say if the behavior is the result of choice (or some other non-genetic reason), then it is clearly the misuse of sexuality. That is not my opinion, it is a biological fact. One MUST force one's bias into the equation to argue otherwise. Nature did not design men to have sex with men (the male organ being specifically designed for heterosexual copulation), nor did it design women to have sex with women.

If the behavior is genetic, it is bad science to assume said behavior is "natural." It very easily could be the result of a genetic *flaw* as opposed to a natural variation of the genetic code. If it is a flaw -- and good scientists always consider this unless the data demonstrates otherwise -- then it is incorrect to call the behavior "normal."

To illustrate, let's look a pedophilia. Many pedophiles insist they cannot help their attraction to children, but do we call this normal?? Of course not. Is it genetic? Science *must* consider that possibility, but, nonetheless, we know sexual maturity comes later in the child's life and that is sufficient to state that adult/child sexual relationships are *unnatural* regardless their genetic origin.

Incidentally, the identical twin studies demonstrate that only 20% of the identical twins of an exclusively homosexual twin is homosexual. Clearly then, while the genes appear to play a role, they are NOT the exclusive reason for homosexuality.

Bottom line? As religious people who believe it is our civic duty to participate in the political arena, we oppose laws prohibiting consensual sexual relationships among adults. However, we insist it is bad science to portray such behavior as normal. Warping the data to conform to political bias is not in the best interests of our children.

Insofar as our religious community is concerned, God designed sex heterosexually within the context of the marital relationship. All other sexual relationships deviate from that design and are, consequently, prohibited.

If a woman's husband is injured so that he cannot "perform," that doesn't justify her committing adultery. To subordinate faith, love, loyalty and vows to sexual satisfaction is abominable. Rather, one's sexual satisfaction should be subordinate to them.

Within the church, we would treat worshipers with love and compassion, but could never oppose the Natural and Scriptural laws of God. We would never tell a woman whose husband has been disabled she can proceed to have sex with other men. We would never tell a pedophile he can "feel good" about his sexual relationships "without all the religious rules;" and we would never tell a homosexual to continue engaging in that act. Love and compassion are not licenses to sin. Love and compassion will steer people in the right direction.

I assume you will stridently disagree with my observations, but you asked the question, and here's my answer.

Regards,
Skeet

Answer 9

Because having sex used to always lead to children (and it still sometimes does) and children need to be cared for for eighteen years. Without some religious or legal structure in most people's lives, children would be abandoned. Therefore cultures devised rules (mostly religious) to protect women and children from abandonment. The fact that sometimes these same rules harm women and children is only recently being addressed.

Answer 10

Most people do what they want to do.
what religious rules are you referring to?

Answer 11

Who said you cant? Who are you arguing with: yourself? Alot of my friends have sexual relationships wth religious rules and some dont...some of them are married that follow religious rules and some arent...PEACE!!!!