Okay, so I'll begin with some backround details. I was born into a Jewish religious home - and sent to an all boys school for the majority of my teenage life. I am naturally shy, so I believe putting me in an all boy school only furthered my socialization problems with girls. Now I'm a Junior in university and I am still a virgin (I know that sounds sad). The thing is I know I am not ugly and that I CAN get girls, I just don't know where to meet them, or how to socialize with them. I join some organizations but then it's weird for me to ask one of the girls "hey let's hang out, bla bla." Plus, all the girls that I know (since I was raised in a religious setting), are religious as well - and that only perpetuates my virginity problem. In high school, I went out with a girl for three years on and off, and haven't even got to third base (she was religious). I am beginning to feel completely pathetic, I am 19 years old, and still a virgin.
2007-11-22 18:30:54 · 4 answers · asked by dosahyd f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I definitely need to meet new girls, but I can't seem to do so successfully. I just don't know how to say to a girl "let's hang out." Suppose I meet her in class, it just feels awkward because she doesn't know me, and I feel like she's thinking "why would I hang out with you, I barely know you." I have a fear or rejection as well...
2007-11-22 18:31:15 · update #1
If your religion is perpetuating your virginity then you need to look outside the box for sex. Virginity is a good thing for you to have kept, it gives you a one up against the next guy. When I was younger I developed a way to get past my being shy by learning to project myself into a situation, then to act it out. For example lets say for a minute that you are sitting in a library and you see the most beautiful girl in the world, yet you don't know how to approach her in any way. While sitting there you imagine yourself in the third person walking up to her and confidently asking her out on a date. Then you use what you imagined as a script and act it out to the T. I hope you try this method as a way to get past your being shy, it will prove most effective.
2007-11-22 18:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well man, I would suggest just being yourself around women you are interested in. Most people can tell whether you are truely being yourself or putting on an act for them, especially girls. Just be yourself and if they don't respond to you the way they should, walk away and move on to better girls. I mean, if they won't accept your personality then that means they probably won't accept who you are and if they won't do that then what good are they to you?
I have trouble meeting girls as well but that's just because I don't socialize the way most people my age do. I don't 'conform to the norm' I guess you could say.
2007-11-23 02:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take you're in college. Maybe find a part-time where there are other are abundant girls employed. Maybe join a group or club that you're interested in where some interaction would be involved. Just be yourself and get involved in activities.
2007-11-23 02:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by big_smelly_tree 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u can go on chat line or call the chat line and meet some new boys
2007-11-23 02:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by mewillams 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋