My guy ditched me because i dont look beautiful?

Question

I truly loved him and he ditchd me coz i dont loook beautiful and i am not able to get over it . I need to do a entire make over of myself.Pls Help!!

Answer 1

You DON'T need to do an entire makeover of yourself physically just because this one guy was shallow and mean!!! A makeover of your self esteem and attitude might be more productive!
Please don't be put off by the title of the book I am suggesting--it is really encouraging and helpful! Read "He's Just Not That Into You!" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It describes ways to think about and deal with guys like this who are shallow and selfish and show poor judgement. Some quotes from the chapter called "He's Just Not That Into You If He's A Selfish Jerk, a Bully, etc..." You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time! You already have an a**hole...you don't need another!

There are PLENTY of guys out t here who DO think you are beautiful, inside and out...so stop moping over this jerk and go find them!!! You deserve soooooooo much better! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Wow. How horrible to go through. Do you feel you're beautiful? If you don't, then no makeover is going to make you feel differently. You need to work on that first. If you had a good self esteem you'd have told the guy to take a flying leap instead of allowing that to get to you in such a way. Use this as a wake up call and ask your parents to help you work on your self esteem. Get in active programs away from school to get busy, that helps. And wait for someone to do the same thing to him because it's most likely going to happen sooner than you think!

Answer 3

Did he ditch you because (a) YOU think you're not beautiful or (b) HE thought you weren't. Very important that you are honest about this.

If (a): Get over it. See a shrink, get pampered a little, but work on whatever it is emotionally that makes you think you're not beautiful. Men like confidence, so if you go around constantly dogging on yourself, he's gonna get fed up and go somewhere else. He doesn't want to keep reassuring you. Obviously he found you attractive to begin with because he got with you. Trust me.

if (b): He's a jerk and not worth bothering with. Everyone definition of beautiful is different. I guarantee the guys I think are beautiful, others disagree and vice versa. Plus, if he's going to be that superficial, who needs him? (Although, you do need to be attracted to your partner.)

I'd work on the inside first, a makeover will boost you for a bit, but if you're insecure, you need to work on that before you'll ever be happy with anyone else.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I'd say he's not really worth it. If a guy can't love you for you, might as well find a better guy who does. If a guy truly loves you, what's on the outside won't matter as much as his feelings for you.

To look beautiful, you must feel confident and take good care of yourself. Confidence is one of the key that makes people feel that you are unique.

Then again, to get over the breakup, a makeover of yourself would be a fun thing to do. Making yourself beautiful makes you feel beautiful and happier. Just get over him and enjoy yourself by pampering your soul and body.

Answer 5

Forget the makeover unless you want to do it FOR YOURSELF. If a guy only focuses on looks then he was enver worth your time in the first place no matter how you look. Everyone has their own beauty on the outside but always remember that the truest form of beauty is what radiates from within. Sounds like bullpoop but it is quite true.

You can only be yourself in this life, focus on who you are and how you want to look for you...not for anyone else. Never try to be anyone else but you because you are indeed beautiful, and I don't need to see you to know it.

Answer 6

All people have beauty. The man you met was a shallow, arrogant, self righteous *** hole.

Though it may not seem easy, you need to allow yourself time needed to get over this hit to your feelings.. Sure, you will felt like you have been dealt a bad card here, but believe me.. If you go about drastic changes to make yourself look 'beautiful', then you will end up feeling worse.

If you give in to this, then effectively you have let him walk all over you and in the end, win.

I do know the problem as my first true girlfriend, i thought i loved her.. She happened to sleep with a multitude of different people each week.. It's not nice, but don't let it send you into a spiral of destructive behaviour. It's not easy to get out of.

Answer 7

veniila how old are u dear?? and how do you know it was becuase he didnt think u were pretty enough?? many guys .want a trophy they can show off . sad but true.
dont waste any time on such a man either or he is not worthy of you. a man that looks only on your appearance and nothing else will also be looking at all around him and if given a chance will stray to others,, . take your time to know someone fully and dont lose heart..
GOD created u unique and their is only 1 of u with your personality and your genetic code,, u are special just as you are,, can u improve your physical body? yes ,, but its just an added bonus n not what should be looked at only mj

Answer 8

Okay first of all that guy is an asshole and needs to realize that beauty is only skin deep. He he loves you then you are beautiful to him no matter what. You shouldn't change your appearance to be with someone! they should love you for who you are no matter what. if they want you to change for them especially if its your looks than you are better off without that person. You deserve someone who loves you for you even your flaws. so don't stress over making yourself over look for the things that make you beautiful and let them shine through everybody is beautiful in their own way. so don't change yourself for a guy !!! Be true to yourself that is the only way you will ever be Truly happy. Good Luck

Answer 9

If a guy loves only for looks he gets hurt in the long run, and hurts others too.

You should rejoice he is out of your life. I'm sorry for your feeling of loss, but this will pass. Don't change the way you are for someone that is only looking skin deep.

Enjoy yourself as a person and be happy. Happy people find other happy people dear, so move on and be happy.

Answer 10

He didn't ditch you because you're not beautiful - he ditched you because you didn't meet his expectations, whatever they might be. If you are happy with yourself, who cares what someone else thinks. Lots of women change aspects of themselves to satisfy the men in their lives. The truth is if a man leaves you its not because of the way you look - its because he is a shallow human being - its not you so forget him, he's not worth your love. It may take a while but you will find someone who loves you for who you are, not how you look. Good Luck