How can you avoid getting disappointed?

Answer 1

You can't, in my experience. Disappointment is a part of life, just like joy is. In my personal opinion, emotions are relative, co dependent on one another. How can you be happy if you don't have something like sadness or anger to compare it with? If everyone were happy all the time, we would take it for granted, we'd be just like cows, contentedly chewing on the cud of life without a care in the world. But, just because disappointment is inevitable, it doesn't mean we have to let it consume us. Success isn't achieved by avoiding mistakes, but by learning from them. Similarly, growth isn't achieved by avoiding disappointments, but by learning from them as well.

My biggest disappointment came from a girl situation. We shared so much together over the summer, and then I had to go off to school halfway across the country. When I came back for Christmas break, I realized that I was head over heels for her, and so I found her and told her that I loved her, and she told me that she felt the same. A couple days later, I asked her what she wanted to do, and she couldn't give me an answer, and so I went back to school confused and hurt. I was in a funk for over a year after that, and it was really rough. She would not tell me what she wanted to do, and it was the biggest disappointment of my life, and there would be months where she wouldn't call me back, and I'd forget about her, and try to move on, and then out of the blue she'd call me and act as if we'd talked just the other day. Each time this happened it was like re-opening the wound. This past summer, it happened for the last time. She failed to call me back after like three weeks, and when she finally did, I didn't answer. Didn't hear from her until Thanksgiving, she sent me a text, and I replied, but nothing besides that.

Crazy thing is, after all that, if she showed up at my front door today, I think my heart would melt. She was the first girl I ever was that vulnerable with, and even though I've finally moved on, a part of me might not ever get over her. Yeah, it was a huge disappointment how it all happened, but I learned so much from her about young women and what a relationship should be like and what expectations to have, so even though it hurt really bad, if I had to do it all over again, I would, because everything that happened helped define who I am today. If you've gotten this far, I applaud you, and I sincerely apologize for this novel! Hope it helped!

Answer 2

you can't. life has ups and downs. we wouldn't appreciate having things go our way if that's the way it was all the time. sometimes things are disappointing- the trick is to be able to move on and know that life has a way of working things out. there have been times where something really bad happened and i thought it was the worst luck ever, then later on i looked back and realized that not only was i happier now, but it was a direct chain reaction to the disappointment.

edit- i just realized i'm in the dating section, but my answer still kinda applies

Answer 3

I don't think you can avoid it. Just learn how to deal with it. We all expect the best in people and are so hoping with every new experience that this will be the ONE. Learn to recognize black flags and RESPOND to them. Like, if all your friends say this person is bad for you, maybe they are. If they smoke and you don't and they are blowing it in your face and you ask them to stop and they don't. IT's a flag. Sometimes it is little things. But it gives you a clue of things to come.

Answer 4

Its always nice to have things in common with whoever you are dating. It gives you something to share doing that you both enjoy.

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Answer 5

If you are willing to not expect more than that person is capable or willing you will never be...Ask questions and have boundaries. You are in control of what is acceptable to you.

Answer 6

dont ecxpect things.
dont get too in love with your boy friend
right away otherwise he may break your heart
if he doesnt think you are the right girl
so wait a while, like a 2 months

-Rachel♥

Answer 7

don't get your hopes up

Answer 8

Dont expect ANYTHING.