We aren't "together" yet so it's not my place to say anything to her but she would tell me about how her ex did this to upset her and did that to upset her. She always talks about him. I know she only mentions his faults, but I think deep down she wants it to work out with him. Why would she bother unloading all these things about him if she didn't still care right? Man I don't know, I'm really starting to fall for her. She was the one that broke up with him by the way.
I promised myself after my last girlfriend hurt me real bad that I would not let myself get hurt like that again. So do you guys think she still has feelings for her ex?
2007-11-22 17:34:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may be that she is not over her ex. But it could also be that it still hurts her and your the person she feels she can confide in. I know how you feel, nothing is more annoying than a girl talking about her ex. Really, I would tell her it bothers you and either have her agree to quit or explain why she does it.
2007-11-22 17:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his current gf. He is not serious about your relationship. He is using you until he can get a "smokin" girl of his own . If he thought you were smokin, he'd be telling YOU that you are. He is disrespectful of you, disregards your feelings, and turns his behaviour back on you. How long will you put up with feeling 2nd best? How long will you be compared unfavorably to others in your ownpresence?How long will he say that your are jealous, when he is a cad and a jerk? My guess is, until he dumps you. Me, if my guy was doing that, I would tell him that I think he needs to grow up and stop disrespecting his gf. I would say that I am not 2nd best and I will not be treated that way. I would say, if his ex was all that , maybe he should beg to get her back. I would say, I am not jealous anymore, I am outta here. I am leaving and pack up my duds and move on. PS you have low self-esteem so your picker is broken, You pick guys who will treat you like garbage so you can be reminded everyday that you are garbage. Guys who are disrespectful users, selfish and evasive will swarm to you like bees to honey. Because they can get sex and attention without giving much back. A grown-up, loving man wouldn't do that to you, and you wouln't allow it. YOu don't like what you are catching? Change the bait. This means, to change your attitude about how you will be treated, and that alone beats being abused and ignored, compared to past relationships and dissed to your face. Lose the bum. You can do better, even if that means being alone for 2 years. You deserve to honored and respected and loved by your bf or he isn;'t much of a bf, is he? I just read your other questions; Aren't you cheating on him with an online guy? Grow a spine.
2016-05-25 02:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely not over her ex. Since it is bothering you, politely ask her the true feelings that she has for her ex. After she tells you her answer, then ask her why do she always talk about him. Does not matter if she broke up with him because people do things out of anger and when everything smooths over...they go back to the person.
2007-11-22 17:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by K.G. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she probably just wants you to relize what he did, so that you will not do the same things to her. This is her way of letting you know how badly she was hurt before.
I am guilty of that myself. It is nothing to do with wanting that other person back, it is trying to get though that I can not take that kind of treatment any longer, from anyone else.
2007-11-22 17:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she hasnt gotten over her ex yet.. or she wouldnt be talking about him so much.. and mabe she sees you as just a good friend that she can talk to and not as what you see her as.. she could be lookng for advice from you as to what to do, you need to talk to her and let her know how you feel and see what she says.. be easy on how you tell her tho you dont want to scare her away if you think theres a chance with the 2 of you.. but from experience, someone who keeps talking about a ex isnt quite over them yet.. talk to her, find out how she feels, find out what she wants to do, communication is the key to any relationship.. good luck!
2007-11-22 17:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she does. So you should wait till she finally lets go of her ex completely then get together. Over time, If you feel that she is not the one for you, go for someone else. There are many other fish in the sea!
2007-11-22 17:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny English 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably likes you i think she is just venting about her ex. Sounds like she is really hurt still over the whole thing. She probably needs more time.
2007-11-22 17:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely no.
Girls do that to gain attention. Trust me. She WANTS you to get jealous and care. or she wants to get together and she wants you to hurry up and make the move. =]
i've done this plenty.
2007-11-22 17:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus--get a clue---find another girl to talk to--this gal is just wasting YOUR time--blah blah blah---don't you have anything better to do--listening to that stupid girl is making ME sick !!!! Poor boy--you're hurt---grow up Clancey!!!--time to get a grip and start looking for really nice girls. Now take an aspirin and tell her to shut up !!
2007-11-22 17:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she just needs a little bit more time.
2007-11-22 17:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bri Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋