I need help, any and all good advice is appreciated, in an emergency my relationship hangs in the balance????

Question

My boyfriend of 4 years has come to me saying he isnt happy. He also says he doesnt know why. We have problems like anyone else, but nothing i ever felt that we couldnt over come. My mom makes things difficult because she doesnt like him, and i cant escape this beacuse i llive with her (moving out is not an option). He also says that i am not social enough. he sometimes has issues communicating his feelings and getting his point across. I want him to be happy but i dont want to let him go either, i really think we could work it out if we give it time. I am so in love with him and cannot see myself this happy with anyone else. my questions are;
1.How can i help him communicate his feelings without putting in my own opinions or controling the conversation?
2.How can i be more social around him and his family when i am naturally a shy person?
3.What is the best way to tell him i am devoted to him with out smothering him?
4.What is the best way to handle my controling mother?

He has apoligized for approaching the topic they way he did (he was kind of a jerk) but i still feel like he is unhappy and just pretending to spare my feelings. I really want to make him happy but he wants me to change things i have no control over (my mother preventing us seeeing eachother, my shyness). He has suggested breaking up until i graduate high school and can move out of my moms home but i feel like if he loves me and wants me in the end he should be able to stick it out through the hard times. What should i do and am i crazy for wanting him to tough it out with me even if he is stressed out (like me).

Answer 1

No your not. Its actually the way it should go. But theres a alot of other things going on here, that time isn't going to fix. Namly the lack of emotional communication between you too. Which most likly starts with HIS inability to be honest to himself. Your fix is talking honestly about it, no other options really other then putting patients to the test. But you guys need to relate more the history you've been thru, AND a better idea of what the future holds for the both of you. Your lacking TWO very important things that would help you both. YOU need to know more about history so that you have a better idea WHY he would be so unhappy, yes you need to do some homework. Sec, YOU BOTH need to have a better plan for the future or your both going to be at ends figuring out what the heck is going on day, by day. Its why they have things like primise rings, and engagement rings, becuase it forces HOPE on both parties, making it easier to be patient.

But its your life, your choice, just make sure you stick to your purpose in it all.....