Is it normal to still have feelings for someone who a month a go pretty much told you he was interested in someone else after we had been "dating" for about a year. It hurt how insensitive he was towards my feelings at first, but God has helped me tremendously in the healing department. I have tried to stay busy, surround myself with friends and fam, and exercise, but on the occasional downtown i still wonder if he is doing ok. He has tried to make subtle contact with me through im msgs, but I havent responded. i think this would hinder my healing process. Still Im having trouble getting over this person, any inspirational advice? Adult answers please. Thanks guys.
2007-11-22 15:44:45 · 12 answers · asked by Malc T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The situation as you describe it is very normal. It's part of the growth process. You don't mention your age (or his) but I would encourage you to (1) Continue to not respond; if he is insensitive during a dating/courting relationship - consider how it might be on a more perminent basis. (2) Pray when you have feelings about relenting - about giving in. (3) Focus on the friends you do have - particularly girlfriends - and spend time as you can with them. (4) If you date - date those who are more platonic and avoid any temptations to get serious for a while. If you can't do that - don't date. (5) Find other interests. ie: Volunteer somewhere where you can help others. (6) Tell your problem/situation to the Lord and ask his guidance and then look for (and test) what He might be showing you as you trust that He will. (7) Don't be in a hurry to get back into a serious relationship. Healing is a process that takes time.
2007-11-22 16:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by trinity.tom333 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is not everything in life, though essential. One cannot maintain the initial tempo and feelings of love for each other through out life. As long as you are at a distance, attraction to meet often will be there. Once your relationship ends up in a marriage when you would be seeing each other every day, love or original feelings tend to decrease. This is nothing but natural. This fact should not worry you.
2016-04-05 04:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly normal. I still love my ex-wife, even years after we divorced. It doesn't hurt quite as much as it did at first, but there are still times when I miss her. I still haven't gotten to the point where I think I could ever love anyone else, and sometimes I wonder if I ever will. I don't know how much comfort that may be. . . but know for certain you're not alone.
2007-11-22 15:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal if he was the one who broke-up with you. You still have feelings for him. It seems that it was fate that he left you. He might have ended up hurting you more down the road, because he'd be leading you on while still being interested in someone else. Better he told you then you find out later.
2007-11-22 15:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is quite normal to still have feelings for someone you cared about, but if you feel that person no longer cares for you, then you need to move on with your life. I think you need to put God first...let Him work everything out for you. Study on Proverbs 3:5 & 6
2007-11-22 15:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by Getsaved 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure hon, that's normal. We can't stop ourselves from feeling, but we can control our actions. I think you are doing well to ignore this man's attempts to contact you, obviously he's not the man of God for you.
You probably still have feelings for him because that's the comfortable thing to do, it's what you are used to. It's hard to change, but it seems you are doing well!
The only inspirational thing I can say is that next time you are tempted to re-establish contact with this man, just remember that God has someone who is perfect for you in the future and if you go back with this guy, you will lose out on the one intended for you.
2007-11-22 15:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your feelings are deep, they'll always be there. In a few years, they may be pushed into a corner of your heart when it's pointed towards someone new, but it will always be there. Be good to yourself and learn from your relationship. Then find a new love.
2007-11-22 15:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing inspiring from me, just the old cliché about live, love and learn. We keep on loving, no matter. That's what is important.
There is no former love of my life who is not a friend. We always manage to get along and wish each other the best.
2007-11-22 15:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it happens.....keep your head high and move on . Put those blues to good work. Positive actions. Don't go back down that road.
Best of Luck !
2007-11-22 15:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by cocoamoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is normal as long as you don't obsess over or let it rule your daily life.... I still think about those who I was extremely close to many years ago! I wish them well....
2007-11-22 15:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by blahblah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋