ok well im 21 and he will soon be 18. but the thing is that he dated my niece.he just told me that he loved me and i really dont know what i feel 4 him but i like him a lot i talk 2 him all the time and we talk about everthing i mean everything.plz help. what can i do ?
2007-11-22 15:26:09 · 26 answers · asked by kay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it!
2007-11-22 15:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would take your nieces feeling into account before you think about anything else. Is it worth ruining your relationship with her or anyone else in your family? If its ok with her then Id say continue talking to him until hes 18 and then move forward from there. It doesnt matter what other people think about age differences because Im proof that it doesnt matter. I met my husband when I was almost 16 and he had just turned 21. Weve been together over 4 years now and married for almost 2. Goodluck but please dont hurt your niece because chances are, hes not worth it.
2007-11-22 23:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by i_heart_my_soldier_xoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't say that it's "wrong". It's just an awkward time in both your lives for that age gap in my opinion. As we get older the "age gap" gets smaller. However, a 45-year-old can relate to a 43-year-old a bit better than say, 21 to 18. However, I don't see it being "wrong", it's really just two ages with lots of differences.
That's just my opinion though. I don't really have any advice on what to do because I find the best advice is from people that have experienced what one is asking for advice on. I just wanted to give you my opinion on it though. Just trust your feelings and I hope everything works out for the best! :)
EDIT: I totally agree with the making sure it's okay with parents. If you're just upfront with everything it is wayyyy easier in the long run.
Also, the niece thing... I don't feel to good about that. I'd say that makes it a bad idea. Consider: Who broke up with whom? Did she end up hurt by him? (If she did then it's a no.) And would she be okay with this? Et cetera. (There's a lot to consider.)
2007-11-22 23:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Snuggles! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep talking with him, however I am not sure that an 18 year old really knows the concept of true love, I think it is great to communicate, however for now keep, it on the lighter side, and that right now all you can be is a good friend to talk to.
2007-11-23 00:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's ok to like him. You two may get along really well and it seems that you do. Age isn't really an issue once you get older. (My parents are 7 years apart in age and my in laws are 5) I know it feels kind of weird but it's ok to let it develop, if it doesn't go anywhere so what at least you made a friend you can talk with.
2007-11-22 23:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you wait to date him until he is 18. There's nothing wrong with falling for a younger guy, though. My sister is almost two years older than her boyfriend (she turned 16 this spring, he just turned 15) and they work together perfectly!
2007-11-22 23:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not wrong...he's only 3 years younger than you, but you shouldn't just jump in and go out with him right away. Maybe he thinks u're hot after seeing you, so try getting to know him first before you make any big decisions. Good luck!
2007-11-22 23:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by jbAG MEX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think him being 3 years younger then you is a problem.
The fact he dated your niece could be a problem for you with your niece. Maybe a call to her for a heads up to see if it would, would be a good idea.
2007-11-22 23:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by John M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 18 i didnt even know what love was. in school i would hear guys say to there girlfriends i love you at like 15,16 and them about a week later they broke up......honestly you should wait until hes a little bit older like 21
2007-11-22 23:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by sportsfreak01234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good rule: Minimum 18 and not living with parents.
2007-11-22 23:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with liking a guy who is younger than you are. certainly none. the thing here is that he dated your niece. you have to make sure that they really don't have feelings for each other most especially your niece. well, yeah, with all due respect for her.
god bless! =)
2007-11-22 23:36:24 · answer #11 · answered by 1:57 PM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋