I just can't take the fighting anymore and want to end the relationship as civilly as I can. Now I have an opportunity to but I want to know what the bible says about it.
2007-11-22 15:10:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just walk away....
2007-11-22 15:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's this...
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2012:51-53;&version=31;
and
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=47&chapter=19&verse=29&version=31&context=verse
I'm not Christian, and I know there are also other verses that direct people to honor their father and mother, and so on. If you can keep peace within your family, I think that's the best thing to do. But I also know that in some families, children have needed to cut ties for their mental health. In some cases this is temporary, and ties can be restored later. But in other cases it's permanent.
Every family situation is different and only you can really know what you need to do. If they are really abusive, it might be wise to cut ties if there is no other way to remedy the situation (such as family counseling). If they simply disagree with you or argue with each other, but aren't abusive, then personally I would not cut ties.
2007-11-22 23:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by kriosalysia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are required to respect your parents ... As an adult you can find your own life and set boundaries and limitations on your relationship with your parents..That would be called cutting the apron strings so to speak after this takes place a new found respect and appreciation should be found in one another..If this doesn't take place then you do what you need to do without becoming disrespectful...Good Luck!
You don't have to agree with everything your parents do or say build an integral life that speeks without having to shout it!
2007-11-22 23:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by blahblah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does the Bible say about it? I see the Bible instructs us to flee from evil and that means all evil.
Your age could make a difference, though. You also should stop and think if YOU are the problem and causing friction in the family.
2007-11-22 23:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by mesquiteskeetr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We need more information. Is your family Christian, too? Then the thing to do would be to forgive them. If you're not being physically or emotionally abused, forgiveness and compassion is the best way to go.
But that doesn't mean you can't set boundaries about how you expect to be treated, and you have every right to leave a family gathering if your boundaries are not being respected.
2007-11-22 23:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer depends on why you are having difficulty. If you cut ties you may sever a way for Jesus to witness to them through you. Paul tells us in many ways to take care of our family. The commandments and Jesus tell us to honor our Father and Mother.
2007-11-22 23:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible Say's Honor thy Father and Thy Mother.But if you are of age to move out on your own than it meens be respectful to them,If the problems you are having are causing you problems in your chirstanity than you need to move on with your life.You can always call your family once a week and check in on them.good Luck
2007-11-22 23:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think God would want you to live peacefully and all that fighting is taking your focus off of God so maybe some time away from the trouble would do you some good but pray for your family to come together.
2007-11-22 23:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly if anyone does not provide for those who are his own, and especially for those who are members of his household, he has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith. 1 Timothy 5:8. You did not explain your position in the family to be any clearer. Are you the father, mother, child, head of household, older brother over younger siblings, what? It most certainly makes a difference.
2007-11-22 23:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can certainly identify with your dilema. Years ago when I gave my life to Christ and begin to live for Him - it created some real challenges within my family. Nonetheless I chose Jesus in all humility and determined I would live for Him.
I never turned my back on my family nor did I ever "preach" to them. I let my new lifestyle speak for itself while trying to keep the peace as best I could (Rom 12:18) and eventually some began to turn away from me while others became tolerant and one or two wanted to know more.
Here are some verses that might help your thinking:
Matthew 10:34 "Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to turn " 'a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law - 36 your enemies will be the members of your own household.
Matthew 12:46 While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. 47Someone told him, "Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you." 48 He replied to him, "Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?" 49 Pointing to his disciples, he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers. 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother."
2007-11-22 23:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by trinity.tom333 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Christ himself cut the ties to his family, purposefully we're led to believe. I would suggest you maintain minimum contact through greeting cards and so forth. You may feel better to break it off but its not quite right, and I think you know that.
2007-11-22 23:18:37 · answer #11 · answered by te144 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋