Hi guys, I'm in high school at the moment and just curious why I don't have a boyfriend - it seems like everyone does! I'm 15, a senior (I'm young) and from New Zealand but go to School in the US. I moved from New Zealand to Canada when I was 13, then moved to the US and this is my second year here. I'm smart, interesting, honest - some might say a bit of a goody good - and have lots of friends. I go to a catholic school but it is coed. I don't go to parties cause all that happens there is drugs, drinking and sex and I really don't want to be apart of that. Any ideas on why? I guess maybe my ideals are too high - but we are humans with dignity aren't we?
2007-11-22 14:52:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way I am tall - 5'11''. Also to sort of reply to the other answers - thanks heaps! I am nice, not a jerk or anything - there are some people in my class that are smarter then me and everyone hates them because they act like they are smart asses and know-it-alls.
I do like this one guy - he is so sweet and nice but he has fallen for one of my friends! She is really nice to so I'm happy for her and everything but it is kind of sad for me. I guess I tend to fall for the sweethearts of the school!
2007-11-22 15:09:13 · update #1
the guys that dont show interest in you because ur not being a hooch are the people you dont want to date! trust me, i went through a lot of the same things in high school(except im a guy) ! what you feel like youre missing out on now will easily land you the perfect person later, who will respect you for respecting yourself in the choices youre making right now! i know its hard to care about something so unguaranteed in the future, but anything i could say to show you that youre doing the right thing i would! i promise it will pay off! i would do anything to meet a girl now who was like you then!
2007-11-22 15:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... maybe you are a little too intimidating to them. maybe you are just really pretty and since you are smart the boys just think you are gonna show them up with your school abilities. they prolly also think that you are mean and such because you think you are better than everyone else, but i am like 99.9% positive your NOT and im sure your a nice gurl, you just have to show them that and let them see that you arent just a big brain, but something more. a fun, exotic gurl from new zealand that is gonna have some fun. just talk and get urself out there. like... talk to the people more ur age, dont go for the stupid seniors. they are just drunkies in highschoolers bodies. so go for another 15 year old and dont get into the sex and drugs and stuff becasue it is only gonna cause problems. so just talk, be urself and he will come along eventually.
hope i helped!
2007-11-22 15:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Christine S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 17 year old American senior in high school and I've never had a girlfriend. I believe everything happens for a reason, so that's why you and I don't have anyone.
I agree with you on not going to parties. I've been to some, but the drinking just doens't attract me. The truth is, you don't have to go to them and participate in that to be "cool".
I know it seems like everyone has a boyfriend/girlfriend now and that everyone is having more fun than you, but the reality is they don't.
Just stay focused on your personal goals and everything else will fall in place.
2007-11-22 14:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you treat other people? Does the fact that you're smart make you come off as arrogant? Arrogance is a HUGE turn-off in the women I look at.
Are you setting your standards too high? Life isn't a movie, don't expect to be dating the hottest guy in school.
Also, you sound like a goody good Catholic girl which is GREAT, but IF you're not sexually active, certain guys won't even think about dating you (this is their loss of course, don't sell out to them.)
2007-11-22 14:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by glass_commander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're expecting too much. There's a saying that says "Follow love and it will flee, flee love and it will follow." You're only 15. I was a young senior too (17 when I graduated). It's easy to think that "everyone" has a boyfriend or girlfriend, but not everyone does. Before you go searching for a relationship, try to be happy with yourself. Trust me, unless you know yourself and can be happy being single, adding another person into the mix won't make you any happier. Be independent, be you! Love will come when you're not looking for it. Good luck!
2007-11-22 14:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dizzler9347598 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about not having one, it's not all that you think it is. Half of the people with a boyfriend won't even be with them in another month or two. If you don't want to hang out and do all of the above, I give you credit. Too many kids are doing things just because everyone else is doing it. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. Unfortunately, the age you're at is all about what the other kids are doing, that's the way it was when I was your age, and I'm sure it'll always be that way. Do what you want to do in life, not what other people want you to do.
2007-11-22 14:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by yafvoc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound older than you are. I congratulate you on your sticking to your morals. I know that there are people who will go to parties just to fit in.
You are young. I was not allowed to date until I was 16, and even then, I was not ready. I went on a date when I was almost 18. I didn't really like our "date". He went to a cops house to meet him because he wanted to learn about being a cop. He didn't know the guy. Then we drove around and around to different parking lots talking to his friends whom I didn't know. I really was not turned on by dating.
You have to have faith and trust in God that he will bring you someone for your life when the timing is right. You have to remember that guys and gals do not mature at the same age. I would not worry about what everyone else is doing. You do what is right for you. You sound like you are liked and loved by a lot of people. Just really get to know someone as friends first before you decide to date. It is so much better that way. One of your friends may be the guy you are looking for. Give it time. You have plenty of time.
God Bless you and Happy Thanksgiving.
2007-11-22 15:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, highschool guys don't like a goody-goody...they like a girl that's risk taking...that doesn't mean drugs or sex, it just means not to be uptight all the time, and let go a little, and have some fun.
2007-11-22 15:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um u just haven't met the right person
ur only 15. don't rush.
and im 16, so im not like trying to be old and wise
2007-11-22 14:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by dumdeedum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know why.
But don't worry, your time will come.
Trust Me. :)
2007-11-22 14:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mackenzie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋