my friend wants to commit suicide?

Question

he always tells me how life sucks he doesnt believe in god, he thinks anything is better than living and i honestly think he'll try it. he's 16 but he's depressed and i don't understand why

Answer 1

Some people say it to call attention. Others are seriously thinking about it. I know a few people who tried it, a few times and others who actually did it. Tell him to seek professional help. When he seeks help he should be treated by someone he thinks and feels can help him. Not all so called professionals are good in dealing with people and their problems. Since he doesn't believe in God I won't tell you to tell him to seek religious counsel. The reasons why he is thinking of suicide can be many. It could be something simple to something complicated. Simple that the girl he likes doesn't feel the same. Complicated as he not being able to deal with anger feelings towards himself and the world in general. If you are his friend ask him what exactly is it that is bothering him so much. For he to want to end it all. Tell him just because at the moment things are not going well, doesn't mean they won't in the future. If it's a girl thing tell him to find another one. If it's some sort of physical abuse he is suffering at home. There are people that can help.

Answer 2

He needs more help than just you can give him. It is imperative that you make someone believe you. I know that deep down you'll want to feel like you betrayed your friend, but honestly, if you don't help him get the help he needs, you will have betrayed him. Remember an angry live friend is 10000 times better than attending a funeral. Sometimes we can't explain depression. Even those who are depressed aren't always sure where it came from. The fact that he is telling you is a cry for help. I hope you will find the strength in your heart to get him the help he needs.

Answer 3

Honestly, everyone goes through that stage at least once in their life. Where they think there's no point in living, and no one is there for them. Tell him that there is a reason for living, that it may seem like he has nothing in life, but sooner or later, he'll find it, and he'll be suprised at the results.
And tell him also that there are a lot of people who've commited suicide who probably give anything in this world to be back alive, if they had a choice.
So try to encourage him to live life to the fullest, and it isn't the end.
He's only 16. :/

Answer 4

Turn his name in the police if your seriously worried about him doing it. Maybe they will be able to get him some proper help. Same for me, I often think about suicide, life really does suck, but I've been referred to mental health, got some good meds and am feeling somewhat better. Depressed people just will never get the thought of suicide out of there head. I know I just think about it lots of times but I know I will never do it, no matter how much life sucks, you never know all the good stuff you could possibly miss out on.

Answer 5

well i learned about suicide and that there are reasons such as break-ups and just plain out depression, i can tell you from experience that depression really hurts, and that it's probably a way to get attention or because he doesn't feel the need to live anymore, but if it is because he doesn't get enough attention, ACT QUICK! because if you don't get him to stop he will do it. and if it isn't then just sit down and talk with him and see whats the matter. Did he break up with someone that he really cared about recently because it happened to me recently and i've been thinking so but i'm still livin and i plann on doing so, so anyone who reads this don't freat about me dying, lol.

Answer 6

MOST IMPORTANTLY get in touch with local authorities and/or his parents if at ANY point you think he is in immediate danger.


If you're interested, though, I have a few more thoughts on the matter:
-Firstly, we need more information; what kind of relationship does he have with his parents? what sort of relationship do you have with them? Can you talk to them?
-Maybe you should try to speak with him about WHY he is depressed; you're his friend, and you're concerned.... it can't hurt to figure out WHY; that is likely a BIG part of understanding what's going on with him. Plus, just having an openly concerned friend like you may change his perspective on things.
-I suggest you talk to your friend about speaking with a counselor. DO NOT say psychologist, shrink, or anything like that... hell, I'd avoid the term 'counselor' if at all possible, but try to get him to talk to someone.
-Also, you mention that he does not believe in God. Did religion used to be very important to him? That may be significant... just something to consider

I hope some of those thoughts help!

-Col

Answer 7

sometimes we have no reason that we can connect with anyway to be depressed, that's the bad part, we don't know why, therefore we don't know how to fix it.
Depression is rampid lately, if he would trust the Lord, he would help him, but he has to ask for that help, the Lord does not intrude on our lives, but if we ask, then he will answer and be there for us. Trying talking your bf. into just giving it a chance, he doesn't have to go to church, he can do it in the privacy of his own space. All he needs is the faith of a mustard seed, have you ever heard that before ???
Yes, it only takes that much faith. God bless you for helping him.

Answer 8

If you know his parents you should speak to them about his suicidal thoughts. They may be part of his problem, and if you feel they are, call a mental health hotline. You could also speak to a teacher that you trust at school. If you do nothing and he makes good on his threat you will spend your whole life wishing you would have told someone so he could get help. You could ask that your name not be mentioned. He is crying out for help.

Answer 9

Tell your friend that death is a final resolution to a temporary situation. At 16 something to lift his spirits and give him a reason to look forward to better and happier days can happen at any time. Life is an exciting adventure and he should have a little patience.

Answer 10

Ask him to see a psychiatrist! It's not a good idea to give him an advice otherwise you'll suffer for the cause. Believe me! I suffered so much when I gave an advice to someone who loves committing suicide. Later on, he's not the only one who's bitter, but me.