what do you think of a so-call christian that gossips about the minister and his wife/others and alway's trying to use brain washing to get people to go the way she wants them to but alway's at chruch trying to find fault in everything and everyone i try to stay away from her but she seems to always calls
2007-11-22 12:33:10 · 18 answers · asked by mishoney 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure
every church and club and group has people just like that
some groups attract more than others
Tell her that gossip is a sin and listening to it is disedifying
Take over the conversation and when she criticizes someone just say good things about the one put down.
Chances are she is gossiping about you to others.
Pray for her and the people she slashes with her tongue
2007-11-22 12:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by James O 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do you have Caller ID? If so, don't answer your phone when she calls. If she catches you anyway, tell her you are in the middle of something and not able to talk now (not a lie, since we are always in the middle of something when someone calls and you are not able to talk to her because that would get you involved in the gossip, which is sin). Actually, you should confront her about her gossip and tell her she needs to cut it out. Then she will no doubt start gossipping about you. Maybe you should get counseling from your pastor about what to do. Also, pray that she'll leave the church.
2007-11-22 20:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cee T 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
EyeLove is right. There is a certain way we are suppose to handle situations like this within the Body of Christ. If someone is causing division in the church, then it must be addressed. You first talk to the person you have a problem with. If they refuse to listen, then you take a witness with you, and talk to them. If they still refuse, you take 2 witnesses with you, then if they still refuse, you get the Pastor, and maybe the rest of the church involved. My nephew is a Pastor, and he has someone in his church who is always doing something similar to this. He confronts them right away, and sets them straight. The rest of the people in the church have been doing the same, and it seems to work.
2007-11-22 21:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by byHisgrace 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always point out to her that gossiping is right up there with homosexuality, even condemned in the same sentence in 1 Corinthians 6:9&10, (people who like to gossip worry about the sins of everyone else and she will take notice of being told she is "as bad as" someone who is homosexual. Then remind her of Matthew 7:3
And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
2007-11-22 21:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gray Wanderer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tempting to judge others; however, one must remember that it is impossible to know the experiences of others.
How can I feel good about judging a homeless person when that person grew up homeless without any teachings?
A more constructive thought is, how can you offer friendship and acceptance to this person?
How can we learn to separate the sin from the person?
2007-11-22 20:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rich K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her,and point out to her all the good things about the ones being gossiped about.
2007-11-22 20:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
She should be admonished. Perhaps you can be the one to admonish her.
Catch her in the hallway of the downstairs of the church as she's coming out of the kitchen, and bar her way and hike up your shoulders like you mean business; and be wearing a tape recorder, so you can record your admonishment, and play it later to see how it sounds.
But don't be too harsh. But let her know you'll tell Jesus is she doesn't behave.
If she's bigger than you are, disregard this advice; or else get another lady in on it with you. Ha!
2007-11-22 20:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by 2.71828182845904 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Hello sweet one.. :)
Yes..I think almost churches, have some one who gossips about others.. :(
Dear Heavenly Father Lord God..I lift up my sister unto Thee..I ask that You reveal unto her, the pain she is causing others..Lord I ask that someone will confront her with scripture..In Jesus Most Precious Name..Amen!!
We must take 2 or 3 witness's with us, if she does not listen to one person..if she still refuses to listen to God's word, then we must tell our Pastor and let him decide how to handle the situation..
You are in my heart and prayers dear heart.. :)
In Jesus Most Precious Name..
With ~Love~ your sister..In Christ.. :)
2007-11-22 20:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by EyeLovesJesus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There will always be these types of "Christians." If you study Revelation you will realize these people are symbolic of "the great city."
2007-11-22 20:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Let's Debate 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be worthwhile to ask her if she is serious about following Christ. If she is, then she should be open to guidance (away from gossip and negativity).
Cordially,
John
http://www.GodSci.org
2007-11-22 20:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by John 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋