they dont even let me go to the movies or mall without an adult there. and it sucks because i miss out on so much because im "not allowed"
so i just need to know what you think i can do to convince them to let me do more things.
please && thanks =]
2007-11-22 11:49:35 · 5 answers · asked by Ü 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh yeah, im 16
forgot that little detail
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2007-11-22 12:12:10 · update #1
Hi hawaiian,
The 1st thing you need to do is to show them. Show them you are very much capable of taking care of yourself, show them you're responsible. Then have a heart to heart talk with them. That way you're in a better position to request for more freedom since you've proven yourself already. But don't expect them to loosen the reign at once. This may take time, albeit step by step & you just to be patient with it. Continue doing what you're supposed to do. Earn their trust and you'll ultimately get your freedom. Now on the side of your parents, you have to understand the heart of a parent. They love you and they want only the best for you. Believe me, just like you, I used to resent my parents when I was being restrained about "don't do this, don't go there". But now I'm 41 and a parent of 4. All of a sudden, everything they did to me makes sense now. Just continue being a positive person. Nobody can stop you from resenting them but when you become a parent yourself, you will begin to see them in a different light. Hey, I won't be surprised if you become just as protective as they are right now.
2007-11-22 12:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Behave your way to more freedom.
When they say no- accept it with respect, and no whining or arguing.
When they make a rule - do your best to not only follow it to the letter, but also in the spirit that the rule was made as well.
When you aren't sure what you are doing is right or wrong - ask your parents for advice BEFORE you do anything that you are unsure of.
When you are outside of your parents immediate supervision - behave as if they were standing over your right shoulder at all times.
Do all of that with maturity and dignity, and accept that your parents have to be the ONLY ones who decide when you are ready for more freedom, and it will be given.
2007-11-22 20:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You basically just have to earn there trust...it doesn't come all at once...you have to take tiny babysteps...and progress from there then they will be more inclined to let you go out more....but dont do anything to ruin the trust either. Just be honest and let them know.
2007-11-22 19:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by nanalynnminn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are? Trust is very important to parents. Your parents must care about you very much. Try talking to them and tell them how you feel. If thay say no then lesson to them. Thay no best.
2007-11-22 20:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH, no---you are going to appreciate them SO MUCH later, for CARING about your going out.
YOU WILL APPRECIATE IT, I PROMISE!!!
2007-11-22 20:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋