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I really want to believe that, but i cant. My life is really bad, and a couple of weeks i was real close to commiting suicide. I feel very lonely in life. I never really had a dad in life, my sister never is home because of her boyfriend, my mom is the only person i can talk to but she is always at work and doesnt understand me because she grew up in Russia where it was different. All my other family is in Russia, so i have no real family. I dont have alot of friends, never had a girlfriend, never been on a date and i am already 21. I hate the way i look because of braces, big nose (broke it couple of years ago), freckles, tall and skinny (6'2" 140lbs). Everything about my self i hate and i regret so much of my life. It is my fault that i have no friends because i never go out. I am way too shy and have social anxiety. I just want to be happy and have fun in life, but i really dont see that happening. Anyways, do you think things happen for a reason and life does get better? Thanks

2007-11-22 11:13:37 · 13 answers · asked by datzme240 1 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

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Although having a religion you believe in is a good first step (because you can go to church and meet people who have the same beliefs as you), its not the most important.

I'm not saying you are crazy, because there are many people with social anxiety. Its more common than you probably think. If you don't want to go to a psychiatrist to talk about your problems (not to mention they can give you tips on how to get over your anxieties), there are other paths you can take.

I used to be really shy when I was younger, but I kinda found that chatting with people on line helps. It can't be your only form of socialization, but it can be used as a stepping stone to getting out on your own.

What you really need is some self confidence. Do something that makes you feel better about yourself. Maybe join a gym. Not only can you gain muscle, but you can go to classes and meet new people.

I hope this helps you in some way, and good luck to you.

2007-11-22 11:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by **[Witty_Name]** 6 · 0 0

Sweetheart, I'm not going to preach to you and tell you to pray or seek divine intervention or anything like that but I will tell you that life happens. Whether things happen for a reason or not is something many have been trying to figure out for centuries, myself included. I do know that life is what you make of it and if you want a happy life then you have to make that decision to make it happy. I can also tell you that regretting the past does you no good and will only make you feel worse. You can't change the past, all you can do is learn from it. Taking you life is never the answer. Things always seem worse than they really are. The good thing about reaching rock bottom though is that you've got no where left to go but up. Hang in there, things will get better. ;)

2007-11-22 19:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 1 0

Romans 8:28, for we know that things work together for the good to those that love God to those that He has called according to His purpose. Restablish your relationship with the Lord & you will find the peace that you are searching for. The reason that you feel this way is because like Peter you have taken your eyes off of Him. He is the way the truth & the life no one goes to the Father but through Him, He blazed the trail for us all we have to do is follow Him. Remember He is our Peace. God created you with a purpose, to be comformed to the immage of His Son that He might the first born of all His creation. Amen!!!

2007-11-22 19:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by GREGORIOUSITY 5 · 1 0

LIFE is what choices YOU make...

If you make a choice to do right and better then thats what it will be...sure there are hardships in everyones life...but its how you deal with them and whos there to help...

The Bible says " whatsoever a man sows that shall he also reap...if you sow good you will reap the same...if you sow bad that you will reap the same."....
Its pretty simple....you have to decide whether or not your going to live right and sow good into your life or do nothing and sit and sow and wonder about all the bad in your life....
Pray if you believe , pray even if you dont..........But its your choice to do either the right or the wrong in every situation....
It all starts with you choosing.....and if you believe God can and will help............

2007-11-22 19:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by hghostinme 6 · 0 0

Yes, they do get better. Real good in fact. My story is the same as yours, without the Russian part. I went on to be blessed with a beautiful wife, physically and spiritually, 4 children and now 4 grand children.
God used my circumstance to create a good spirit within me, and He has surrounded me with many many good friends and life is so good I envy me .
lol
-- Hang in there bro, your character and spirit are growing, you will be respected and looked up to for it. You will learn concepts and lessons others who have it easier cannot grasp.

2007-11-22 19:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by I have a bear spot 5 · 1 0

everything happens for a reason. you decide if its good or bad. everybody has a point in life where they dont know what to do. find something youre really good at or enjoy doing. that will take your mind of everything else. dont commit suicide. its a sin. you were created for a reason. when you commit suicide its like your giving up on everything you were meant for.

2007-11-22 19:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

i really understand how you feel.

but you are not alone!

i work with young people. (i am a youth worker in a church in Singapore, a modern city) and i see LOTS of young people like you!

they cut themselves, they attempt suicide, their families are broken too!

but i have seen EACH AND everyone of them CHANGE and their lives becoming better after they get to know our Beloved Lord Jesus.

yes, they stepped into church broken and unwanted, but God does not mind their broken hearts. God picked them up, showed them His love by His death on the cross for them, and made them stronger again.

my brother, God loves you. He sent His Son Jesus to die for you on the cross. though it was 2000 years ago, He had YOU in mind when He was suffering on that condemned cross.

YOUR sin, and mine, were on Him, so that today, if we believe in Him, we will be set free from all our bondages.

you are not unwanted. even if the whole world around you falls, there is still One Person who longs for your love and friendship - Jesus.

i am a thousand miles away from you, but i just want to tell you how much God loves you.

don't attempt suicide again. committing suicide is a sin, as you are robbing your own life from God, who gave you this life.

right now say this prayer, "God, i am confused. and i know i need Your help desperately. ONLY YOU and only You can hear me at this moment. i believe Jesus You died on the cross for me and You died for what i am going through now, so that right now when i choose to believe in You, i am set free. thank You Lord for your forgiveness, grace and Your Death. help me, and change me. bring me to the family of Your believers where i can experience Your love. In JESUS' Name, Amen".

after saying this prayer, you are set free. don't go back to your negative thoughts.

also, find a christian friend (a strong believer), and go to church with him/her. or you could just walk into any (protestant evangelical)churches and talk to the people there. :)

2007-11-22 19:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes God does not put more on you than you can bear but ,there are somethings that God did not put on you. You can make a better effort to be more sociable .You can make a better healthy effort to gain weight. Try weight lifting and increase your calorie intake.

2007-11-22 21:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by snakeeyes 2 · 0 0

Good news: it will get HEAPS better.

Bad news: There's no reason for any of it, no justice or fairness either, and no telling when the good stuff will come or how to get it.

But it will. Hope you feel strong enough to wait for it - or even go out and make it happen.

Good luck. It's cold out there.

CD

2007-11-22 19:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 1 1

Yes, but ONLY BELIEVE,..........God is WAITING for you to talk to HIM--just like you would a FRIEND.

I PROMISE--He has filled the Bible with PROMISES and ONE is to NEVER EVER LEAVE YOU OR FORSAKE YOU.

I was a ugly duckling at school---butt cut hair down to my waist, glasses, geek from the start..........

BUT GOD!!!
God KNEW MY HEART!

I NEVER dated till I was 25, and LATER in life someone told me they respected me for being "Good".
Boy, was I PROUD.

Anxiety comes from fear.
F-False
E-Evidence
A-Appearing
R-Real.

People are really nothing. It is all in your attitude--which I say is low self esteem, I am imagining from what you said.

TALK TO GOD and TELL Him your problems.
When you are at the end of your rope--you will find the hem of His garment,........

You need to change your talking--change your statement---
to I just want to be Happy in life and I KNOW ONE DAY, things are going to BE BETTER!

POSITIVE talk gets a POSITIVE REWARD!

I PROMISE!
Better yet, GOD promises!

Say, " I AM SPECIAL! I am the apple of God's eye! I am a child of God!"

God IS Who He says He is and God can DO what He says He can.
You are in no pit deep enough that God can not reach down and PULL YOU OUT!
He LOVES YOU THAT MUCH!

2007-11-22 19:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 3 0

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