Well, my dad came over to pick me up to see my Aunt because, she came in town for Thanks giving.Well i went with him to his house..And then i started screamin @ him at stuff because it was so hot in the house.
So i just sat outside. Well then he came outside & said ''Are you coming inside or not!'' i started screaming and he took me home. I tried talking to him but he wouldn`t listen he is going to my other aunts house to get my Aunt..I tried to ask him if he would pick me up So i can see her..Well he is just being an *** now!
I called over there to see if my step dad could take me over there when My aunt is there..
My Little brother answer the phone And i asked him if i could talk to my Dad.My dad didn`t wanna talk to me So my brother was my translater..I asked him does he know what time he will be back from getting my Aunt, Then he said IDK!! And so i kept getting mad...Well then i`m like if it isn`t a prob my dad can take me over there to see her because
2007-11-22 10:57:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wanted to See her..And he is like well she doesn`t wanna see me then said ''THANKS FOR RUINING THANKSGIVING!'' and told My brother to hang up the phone..
He Also said he doesn`t know if he is bringing her over there. So i`m like great because i have`nt seen her in 2 years and i promised her that i would go see her..
My dad is also having problems with my dad..
And it`s just my little brother and My aunt that are spending thanksgiving together..what should i do?
Cause i don`t want my aunt being mad at me for not going to see her..
Do you think my dad is being a jerk?
What should i do?
2007-11-22 10:59:58 · update #1
I ment My brother..
2007-11-22 11:02:25 · update #2
Rather than asking yourself, "god, i'm in such a bad situation. Who can i point the finger at to blame?" Try looking at, did you make the problem any better or worse?
Your dad sounds like he's been stressing out (with the hassles between him and your brother, you're impulsive, chronic screaming- it's probably wearing him out a bit). Why are you so angry at your dad? Sounds to me like he didn't want you to make another scene and embarress him in case your aunt's house was too hot as well. Think before you act.
2007-11-22 12:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by [REC]-in-process 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad moods are contagious...if you don't believe me, just look at what's happened today as a good example: You're uncomfortable with the temperature in the house so you "scream" at your dad; he internalizes the backlash from your bad mood and responds in kind, and then it's off to the races...a messed up day is born, and it spills over onto everyone.You can never know for sure how someone will react to being yelled at, but it's a fair bet that it won't be pleasantly. So, whenever you're stressed, sometimes it's helpful to think how whatever you're saying will be received before speaking (because as you can see, things can quickly get out of hand...even beyond your ability to control them.) I'm sure when you first "screamed" at your father you had no intention for things to escalate to this level, but when you decide to injure people (and being yelled at is an injury), you don't get to decide how they will respond. The sad thing is, all of this could have been avoided with a little recognition of the purpose of this day...being thankful for who and what you have. But, Kristen, there is good news here, too. The day is not over. There's still time to make peace, so at least give it a try. Good luck to you, and Happy Thanksgiving.
2007-11-22 19:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are old enough to recognize that there are consequences for our actions. The consequence for your bad behaviour around your father is, that he doesn't want to be around you right now, and he doesn't want to spend the time he gets to visit with your Aunt accompanied by a spoiled screaming brat (you).
He isn't being a jerk, or an a** or anything like that. He is just chosing to have a nice thanksgiving with his family, and you showed him with perfect clarity that he couldn't accomplish that with you around while you are in your current state of mind.
So next time display some self-control in front of your dad, and maybe he will be willing to have you there with him.
2007-11-22 19:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.....you were kinda also being a jerk for screaming at him(in the beginning) for something that wasn't needed to be yelled for.
But you do have a problem. Is there a way you can talk to your mom? Or see if a friend could give you a ride or just try to talk to your dad when you next see him.
2007-11-22 19:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Im not using this account anymor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more nice to your dad. It sounds like your scream at him over nothing and make him upset. I can seee why he just doenst want to answer the phone. Try being nice and supportive to him as he is going though a tough time..
2007-11-22 19:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGurl2011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started it. What's your deal anyways? Why are were you complaining so much in the beginning? It's your own fault that your dad is being an ***. He obviously has a lot going on in his life, and you're not making it easier.
2007-11-22 19:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Adam S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u probably shouldn't have yelled at him, but it was pretty harsh of him to say u ruined thanksgiving. u should try 2 talk 2 him like tomorrow.
2007-11-22 19:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u shouldn't have yelled at ur dad in the first place DipFuckingShit respect him!
2007-11-22 19:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by GOD!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋