My gf admits to thinking about other guys and jokingly says she wants to sleep with other men. It turns me on. Should I mention swinging to her? Is it any good?
2007-11-22 09:54:58 · 19 answers · asked by Nice Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you slag.
2007-11-22 09:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you seriously want to do this, pick up a copy of The Ethical ****. it's a book on polyamory, and it has a lot of things in there that pertain to every kind of relationship, jealousy being a big one. absolutely don't go into this going, "gee, this is SO hot," because if you're watching your girl have sex with another guy right there, you might not feel the same way.
if after you read the book, or another one of your choosing that makes sense to you(absolutely do not pick up Threesomes: How to Achieve the Ultimate Fantasy, or some title similar), tell her, "hey, i know you joke about having sex with other guys, but do you really feel that way?" and if she responds well, give her the book to read and go from there.
2007-11-22 10:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you not get jealous when she is being done in front of you and the other way around it sounds like something in your relationship has ran its course maybe pursue other relationships that will fulfil you and swingers always split up in the end or they live to swing and love between the couple dies very quickly if you are both bored let go and move on
2007-11-22 10:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you thought she might not be happy with you,and no way is she joking she could even be sleeping with other men just be careful i have heard so many bad stories about swinging and people having a 3 sum it can lead to heartache.
2007-11-22 10:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i tried swinging once and it was nothing but a heartache so my advice would to not go there if ur g/f want to try out other guys she and you need to sit and talk coz i think she/you has a problem in your relationship take care hope things work out for you both
2007-11-22 13:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by bonjovi_meatloaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok be warned if you mention the fact that you are okay with this she will think that you don't love/like her enough!
In my opinion the whole swinging thing should only be entered into when your relationship has a solid foundation built on trust and time e.t.c. xx
2007-11-22 10:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
OMG no, fantasies are fine and it's good you are comfortable enough will each other to share them, but fantasies is what they should stay, crossing from fantasy to reality is dangerous. Mistrust, jeolously will all enter the equation, then you will lose what you have.
2007-11-22 10:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by ciara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it as a fantasy, turning it into reality will ultimately lose your your girlfriend or ruin your relationship.
2007-11-22 10:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you have a stronger relationship you dont want it to brake you up because of jealousy every one fantasies about other people threesome and stuff but if you do it what can you fantasise about
2007-11-22 10:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by txx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't forget there are diseases out there - and no the ole rubber won't prevent warts or herpes - and orally there is syphilis, hepatitis, crabs etc. is it worth it? not only that, but how would you feel if she enjoyed it more with them than you?
2007-11-22 10:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♫●♥♪♦ Water Lizard ♫●♥♪♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
If you want to lose her or be consumed with envy - yes
2007-11-22 09:59:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋