i know hes not for me but i cant get over him...i broke up with him..but there is pain in me everytime i see him as just a "friend"....i miss our walks home..wat do i do?
2007-11-22 09:17:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you'll get over him. don't worry. if you know he's not for you, and you've told him and he hasn't tried to change himself or try to compromise to stay with you, just remember that.
yeah, it'll take awhile. it might take several months, or even over a year. you might even get back together, but don't keep your hopes up for that. just try to remember that there are things in life other than him and try to concentrate on those things. good luck!
2007-11-22 09:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by bananaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the lonliest feelings is caring for someone who doesn't return your depth of emotion. It is hard to get over a lost love and if you must keep seeing them it makes it twice as hard. It is probably just too painful to see them as a friend at least for a while. It is normal to miss special times you spent together, so you need to replace those feelings by getting out with other friends and making new connections. It is true that you will immediately feel better if you are active and having fun with others so that your mind doesn 't keep returning to your feelings of loss. Eventually you will get over it, give it some time and take an active role in your healing.
2007-11-22 09:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. I have been there so often when I was younger, and I always handled it wrong - phoning, a little mild stalking, whinging to friends, crying into my drink, eating large bars of chocolate, and going out with good or unsuitable people whose lives I made a misery.
Later on, I looked how other friends handled it. Here's how the successful ones did it.
- wrote it all up in a diary.
- wrote a list of all the bad things the guy did and read it every time they felt bad
- wrote a list of things that they would want to do if they knew the world was going to end next year (non man related) and planned at least one to work for
- did decorating
- joined a club to do something creative
- worked on their self esteem, using self-help books or professional help
This too shall pass......
2007-11-22 09:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Drudgesquad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've got to give yourself and him some time to, literally, "get over it." When you break up with someone it's because the negatives have outweighed the positives. You loved the walks but... well, probably there were so many other little things or big things or whatever that bugged you. So there it is. Give yourselves time to heal. And then you can once again explore friendship and start "walking home" again. Good luck... it's never easy.
2007-11-22 09:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by CopyChief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u hav it bad. try talking 2 him see y u broke up and then ull either understand y its 4 the best and kno u would not like being with him or get back with him. if this is really hurting u then its not 4 the best. u cant liv ur life like this u need 2 talk to him
2007-11-22 09:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do besides give it time and anyone who tells you different is lying. I know this because I'm in your situation right now and I am asking the same questions... but after you've done all you can... you just STAND!!! Let time solve this.
2007-11-22 09:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should try to avoid him for a while and think about times were he did things you did not like, that could probably help you dislike him a little.
2007-11-22 09:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by giggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to start dating again get him off your mind and out of your heart
2007-11-22 09:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way, maybe its not over.
2007-11-22 09:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by tennfan1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋