Okay please dont judge me,,, listen first.
My boyfriend is the sweetest guy on earth! He's totally in love with me and is the most caring and sensitive guy i've met in my entire life... its just, i'm a bit shallow (JUST A BIT!) and i usually start liking guys looks-wise first. With this guy; I loved his personality (and i still do), which is why i said yes when he asked me out... but now i just dont think its working.
I know he'll make a great husband some day and he wants this to get serious, but I'm still 17 and just right now... I'm in a phase where i need a hot boyfriend to show off with and get naughty with, you know? So now I get jealous of my friends who have hot boyfriends and check out other guys...
I cant break up with him because i dont want to destroy him and i'm scared i might regret it later. And i'll die before i cheat on him...
HELP...What do i do???
2007-11-22 08:18:47 · 15 answers · asked by ♥JayJay★♀ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Grow up stop looking at boyfriends as trophy's you one day will be a woman at the moment you a girl in a woman's body
2007-11-22 08:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, at 17 you don't really know what true love is, for you it's more infatuation than anything. If you think you're a bit shallow, then you're probably a LOT shallow in reality but that's to be expected from someone who's still a kid. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to guys that look good to you and at 17, you don't need to be getting serious with one guy. But remember that looks are skin deep. Something else, the guys and gals that look so good in high school wilt faster than a cut flower on a hot day. Jock or not, by age 30 chances are he'll be fat and bald with bad breath and the hot chicks will look like they've been pulled through a knothole backwards and then beat with an ugly stick. The Plain Janes is high school are usually late bloomers and whether they're 30, 40, 50 or older, they'll make the current hot crop of chicks look like an old pork chop bone after a dog gets finished with it. Do this guy a favor and tell him it isn't working. Sure, you'll really hurt him but he deserves someone who appreciates him and isn't scoping out every other guy. Besides, BOTH of you need to enjoy the company of others and forget this going steady thing.
2007-11-22 08:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...if you really love the bf you have now, you won't end up checking out other guys. But the truth is, you don't love him, maybe you LIKE him, but not love. So you should talk to him about how you feel and make him understand or try other ways to love him more...etc. If you really really wants a hot boyfriend, break up with the one you have now first. And you might as welll know that most hot guys have really bad personality=(
2007-11-22 08:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by i <3 matt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want passion like there is no tomorrow. Your boyfriend is perfect for you, but does not have the passion that you want. Your desires do not make you shallow,~~they make you to be honest with your body. Your friends do not have the kinds of guy that you have. Your boyfriend will make a good husband, but he had be a far better lover~~one that will make your legs weak. Is this a change that you could foster?
2007-11-22 08:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a trophy to show off don't you, I don't see why girls are always checking out other guys, I thought it was the other way around. Your boyfriend sounds nice, and I think it would really hurt him if you broke up with him. But do you want a hot boyfriend, or do you want someone who is caring and sensitive.
2007-11-22 08:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like its his weak attitude that turns you off more than his looks, but blaming his looks makes it easier for you. People getting serious so fast or without waiting for the other person to do so are people you don't want to be in a relationship with if you are dating to find that one for you rather than just to be in a long-term relationship with whoever is convienent.
2007-11-22 08:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Myself432943 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being very inmature and that is said for you because it is coming from a 14 year old ....if you really liked him his looks wouldnt matter he would be cute and adorable to you no matter what...as others have said a bf is not a trophey to show off...they are ppl too...how would you feel if you knew he was saying what you just said to other ppl about you....think about it...if you don't like him cause he isn't as good looking as you think you should have...break up with him because you dont deserve a good guy like him and he deserves alot better...it would be for his own good he needs a gf who loves him for who he is not one who wants to make him her little puppy dog and rub in her friends face.....think about it..
2007-11-22 08:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jesyka K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you are being shallow.
very shallow, personality is really what you should consider first.
and im guessing what your saying is, you'd rather have a good looking jerkoff, then a sweet and intellegent decent to not so amazing looking guy.
thats really selfish to want what your friends have too.
damn.
2007-11-22 08:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i see your element yet i additionally see his area...you're the two suitable...its extremely merely a controversy of ways you 2 choose to handle it...the way my sister and my bro-in-regulation handle it via merely asserting "he's warm" or "she's warm" and if the different guy or woman wonders why they locate them warm then they ask...besides the undeniable fact that that's a organic subject to look and notice what's accessible yet flirting is the place you will possibly desire to draw the line...
2016-11-12 10:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur not interested just tell him u want to be friends and ur also young. there's no need for long relatinships at 17, u need to start
flirting now b4 it all goes to hell if u know what i mean.
2007-11-22 08:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by yak 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋