An acquintance (sp?) of mine cheated on her boyfriend, so he committed suicide. He had problems, but that's beside the point. Anyways, now she constantly acts as though he is merely on vacation without his cellphone, and she puts up away messages involving his name and how much she loves him, needs him, etc. You know the stereotypical ones, "out with (insert name here) cell good! love you (name here with last letter of the name drawn out.)"
Is that normal? It seems like she's losing it to me.
2007-11-22 07:41:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
She's trying to treat it like she had no part in his death and that he's still her boyfriend. He's dead! And it IS her fault because he sent her pictures of nooses and she didn't do a damned thing.
Frankly, she was a little bit mental before this tragedy, so that's why I asked.
2007-11-23 06:40:29 · update #1
Called denial.
Some people are really good at it. like neocons. Yes, it is a form of mental illness.
2007-11-22 07:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
As someone else said it IS denial but Not a form of "mental illness".
The shock she's experiencing and the horrible final reality of this death means she's trying to postpone the reality, and the grieving process.
Its all part of the range of emotions shes going through.And yes there is possibly an element of guilt there.
Its when these things prolong theres a problem.Theres a fine line between letting an individual work through things themselves and knowing when counselling is necessary.
Hope it works out in time
2007-11-23 05:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by paulpoulboy. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could just be her way of grieving. When did this happen? She must have alot of guilt for what happened wether it was her fault or not. If she continues this behavior for over a year then she should probably seek councilling. People grieve in different ways, some ways just seem strange to others.
2007-11-22 07:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She is in denial and racked with guilt I would think. She will not see he had other mental health issues already and will blame herself totally for the entire situation.
You need to get her to some therapy, she needs to let go of the guilt and grieve for her loss.She could be going through some sort of breakdown so the sooner the better.
2007-11-22 08:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
She is in denial and finds this more comforting that accepting what happened. In the end, she is not responsible for what he did. Each one is responsible for what we do with our own life.
2007-11-27 02:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denial is a very normal aspect of grief.
When a loved one dies, one never really "gets over it." Instead, they learn to cope with it on a day to day basis. Her reaction to his death is perfectly normal. People deal with grief differently, and being supportive of her grieving would probably mean a lot to her. You do not have to indulge her, but showing her you love and care about her, and asking her if she wishes to talk about it will probably be helpful.
2007-11-22 08:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by ninth_lady 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I did send a text to a dead person once saying 'I miss you' I dont think thats crazy but
if she really believe he is not dead then yes there is a problem, if its only about this text then she is trying to cope in her own way...just watch her for a while..
2007-11-22 07:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by DejaVu- RETURNS 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
normal. its a Way of grieving. i look at my dead parents picture every night before go sleep and talk to them and kiss their picture. it relaxes me. i try to think they went to vacation. excuse me but instead of you sharing your friends sadness you call her mad. you can not understand her pain. she owns her grief
2007-11-22 10:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by \ 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋