my sister in law moved in with us a month ago, she has only paid 1 weeks, she sleeps till 3pm, doesnt work. I dont think its unfair to ask for her help cleaning up. I realise she doesnt make all the mess, but I cook the dinner that she eats, and I think that she sleeps all day, the least she could do would be to stach the dishwasher (I clean every morning while she is asleep.) I asked her about it, and she answered 'only if you dont use too many dishes.' every time we go to the shops she gets us to get her things but doesnt giv eus the money for them, we would be up to about $100 there too, we lent her the money for a cable 3 weeks ago and while we havent heard another word about it she is telling my husband heowes her 5 dollars for lunch. How can we all get along, coz I am working looking after a toddler, cooking and now cleaning up after 3 other people, and i think i will go insane if it keeps up
2007-11-22 06:17:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the leaving the dishes in th sink works in theory, but we went away for a few days and when we got home there was a mouldy stinky dish on the bench from whatever seh had cooked so obviously she doesnt care that much!
2007-11-22 06:28:10 · update #1
Tell your husband to talk to her and that if she doesnt start helping out and contributing financially, gets a job and help with the work that you are leaving. Tell him either she goes or you go.
2007-11-22 06:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and explain to her what you want her to do and tell her how you're feeling right now with spending a lot of money on her and not really getting too much back. Add in that you don't expect a lot, just a little help around the house. Have your husband talk to her too...this is his sister who lives with y'all, right?
If all fails then leave a mess of pots and pans in the sink. Don't clean and then she'll see that you aren't doing anything and neither is your husband. Maybe then she will become bothered by the mess and do something. Or give her a newspaper and tell her to find a part time job for herself if she doesn't wanna help out around the house. I mean, this way she can pay you rent and you won't have to worry about her mess so much.
'Hope this sorta helps! And happy Thanksgiving! :)
2007-11-22 06:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband that you are tired of this and have your husband tell his sister that if she wants to stay there than thats fine but the dishes must be done every night after dinner and the living room must be cleaned before she goes to bed and that there should be no more than sleeping in until 12 pm..And if she doesnt like that then there is the door !!
2007-11-22 07:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the other sisters. Calmly talk to your husband. But know that fighting over this won't help/ You don't want to look like a b. Best idea is to find a great guy and get him to ask the sister out. Or a great other girl friend. Or both. Sounds like she needs friends and fun activities and doesn't know how to get them. You and she could get involved in something together like an exercise group or a club or volunteer work. Then sometimes you could leave her to go by herself or have to leave early. That way you are helping her and getting her out of your hair. Look at it this way. She is pitiful. You got the guy. Legally, he is yours. He chose you. He didn't chose her. He just got stuck with her. Insist that your husband include you in activities with his sister most of the time. Be her friend. She needs one. Also, once you have children, you and your husband need to go out and let her babysit! I bet she will be a great aunt!
2016-05-25 00:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is under 18 lay down the law, tell her she WILL do her part or leave.If she is over 18 tell her she has a week to find a place and if she doesnt take her to the homeless shelter and dropher off.Call it tough love.
2007-11-22 08:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's all wrong, isn't it? You are taking care of a lazy grown woman and all she can do is complain and lay around......this would stress me also. I would tell my husband that I was giving her two weeks to find a place and then I would tell her if he didn't that she wasn't what you signed up for.....tell her that she needs to move so that you both can salvage a relationship with her...tell her it is important to you to keep this, but you just can't handle the extra load.
2007-11-22 06:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that as of now she eats her own meals which she cooks herself and shops for herself...give her her own space in the fridge and cupboards for her food...and DONT cook for her anymore...then tell her that she has to move out by a certain date...dont budge...get her some adverts for places to stay and give them to her and ask her every hour if she has found a place yet. dont get her anything from the shops again.
2007-11-22 06:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sister in law moved in with her son and husband they stayed for about 2 months then moved out she as very clean but we just didn't get along eventually my boyfriend (her brother) made us go outside and sit and discuss what was bother us about each other and it worked great were now like best friends... maybe its something you should try.
2007-11-22 06:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her 30 days as you are required to legally, and GET HER OUT OF THE HOUSE.
2007-11-22 06:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has to go. She will suck the life out of you and ruin your relationship and your life. No job means she will be there forever. Gotta go and the sooner the better.
2007-11-22 06:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Whynot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋