without enrolling in courses/paying money for anything....how is it possible to control anger, and not let it overtake your whole mind? to ensure one doesn't take out anger on the undeserving, e.g. innocent friends/family members who just happen to be there?
2007-11-22 04:49:54 · 13 answers · asked by kleptomanic sheep 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
well, i mean, if the worst came to the worst there's a counsellor who wouldn't charge, but not keen on that idea...
2007-11-22 04:56:30 · update #1
k...all useful answers, but what if you can't just up and disappear to some quiet place for a bit of mediation or golf? what then?
2007-11-22 05:10:06 · update #2
the courses don't work anyway. my brother took them for years and died very angry. my best advice is to learn to reconize the trigers for your anger and learn to either avoid those situations or walk away even if it's just to the washroom until u fell more under control.
2007-11-22 04:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mike H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are aware about your anger related problems then half the problem is solved. Whenever you are angry don't face the person you are angry with - just walk away. Tell yourself that you will not get into an argument - it is difficult but take your friends into confidence and tell them that you are trying to get rid of your nasty temper. They will surely help.
Another effective way of easing the rising temper can be tearing paper. You can keep some old newspaper in your room and when you are very angry just go to your room and remove all your anger on the newspaper by tearing it over and over again. It will help cause when you start tearing the paper after sometime your mind will shift to the task that you are doing and you will forget what had made you so mad. Best of luck and hope this has helped.
2007-11-22 05:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dimple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With every day stress and when you fly off the handle.. WRITE IT DOWN. Everything that makes you mad, even the simplest little thing. Remember.. ITS OKAY to be mad, its just the way you express it that is important. Bottling things up is worse.
See below as an example.
Trigger- some stupid lady cut me off, scared the crap out of me, almost hit my car.
How I felt- ready to rip her face off, what the heck is wrong with her? Where did she get her license? I mean COME ON now..
Response- screamed at her, laid it on the horn, flipped her the bird and tailgated her until i was sure she got my point.
My reaction to my response (after calming down)- this was not right, it wasnt a big deal maybe she really didnt see me, I think i may have done something wrong.
What I could have done- honked, its okay to be mad, maybe muttered to myself, backed off and let her go. I dont want to be around drivers like that anyway.
How I would have felt if I had done this instead- not as mad, probably not that big of a deal.
What I will do next time- take a deep breath and THINK before I react, as I know right from wrong and will act as an adult, accordingly.
Different things work for different people. Exercise is a good outlet as well, take it out on golf balls as the other person said, or get running on a treadmill. Kickboxing! :)
You have to want to change for it to work. Its a bad habit for some, and can be tough to break.
Good luck.
2007-11-22 05:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can help you the most with your problem is YOU. Anyhow,spare some time and little effort checking out the following websites: You might find some valuable tips and advice on anger management. Good luck!
www.beliefnet.com
www.panicdisorder.about.com
www.ezinearticles.com
2007-11-22 05:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mysterious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all in your mind and how u want to control your self.haveing suffered pariona plus other mental health problems for many years my anger was impossible to control and got me in serious trouble ten years in prison amongst other hell places .i would rather attack then try to understand why i would go crazy yes i saw all the shrinks and councellers but it wast till i started to mediate and find my peacefull spirit .never stand and argue walk away as when u are shouting or attacking your foe u cant get u point over.then when u have calmed down come back and sort it. it works for me i havet hurt no one in over 3 years
2007-11-22 05:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ally S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First self help needed, reconize it when it happens and then find a stress release. I find if I just go for a walk, and chill. Sence I had a major heart attack, and I have PTSD. I cant afford trips to hospital. Find a happy place for you! Use it, and remember that your friends and family will always understand. Works for me! Hugs are good too! Hugs and Happy Thanksgiving!
2007-11-22 05:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by vicwhit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 easiest way: 1. to take another look at the matter - does it really make people angry or it only makes you angry? 2. learn to raise your tolerance level, by either giving yourself some assignments everyday or playing role exchange w a person who is willing to help you. 3. count up to 10 or turn around to do something else before you burst out.
hope this helps.
2007-11-22 05:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by shanghaisweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned to control my anger with out any help. You just have to teach yourself how to channel it into a positive manner. I keep my golf clubs in my trunk and go to the driving range to take it out on the balls. Also you can use meditation. That has helped me out a lot as well. There are books that you can get to teach you relaxation.
2007-11-22 04:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by cmotis28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you angry, take deep breaths. try it.
And remember, by being angry, you are destroying urself by pushing your blood pressure, creating tension within urself. So why do you anyone let do harm to your body in an indirect way. I will never let it happen, so i take deep breath in/out and I am ok.
best way, when you angry, go to a place and sit quietly.
2007-11-22 05:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Believer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without enrolling in a course and talking with a counselor I don't see how it is possible.
2007-11-22 04:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋