My brothers best friend is really hot and i've liked him for ages. So the other night i'm in the study ( in my house) and he comes in and starts flirting with me, one thing leads to another and we're on the floor making out, and his hand is, lets just say, south... A few days later he calls me and asks me to go over his, i want to but i think others might judge him because hi's 25 and i'm 16, do you think they will?
2007-11-22 04:11:38 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This guys after one thing and one thing only!!! You have been warned.
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2007-11-22 04:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Debbie 4 · 14⤊ 0⤋
1. does your brother know about this? How do you think he would feel about it? be considerate ok?
2. is this something that you are 100% comfortable with? If not, then that alone should tell you to not go ahead with it.
3. Ever wonder why a 25yr old guy goes for way younger girls? Think that maybe there's a reason they can't find someone their own age?? Think about that.....
4. You're only 16 - I'm sorry, I know you're probably going to get a lot of that, but the truth is that you're so young, you have you're whole life ahead of you, you have to take some time to be friends with guys and discover what you really like. What you like at 16 will be a lot different than what you like when you're 25.
5. Don't just give it up because you think a guy is hot. That means nothing. To have sex with someone, there should be love between the two people not just a physical attraction, although that is part of the equation.
6. Get on birth control, make sure any guy you decide to sleep with uses a condom (even if you are on birth control, better to be safe than sorry!)
7. BE CAREFUL CAREFUL CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
One more thing: depending where you live, because you are under 18 it is considered illegal...for those who say it isn't, they just don't have the knowledge.
2007-11-22 04:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by JD 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I can understand why you are concerned. You must remember not to rely too much on what is being told to you - some have already stated it is sick - but some also forget that a girl of 13 can give birth and many are readily accepting of that. I saw no judgements being made against her or the child's father.
Do what you think is right - after all you are not breaking any UK laws (if that is where you are). If there are those willing to make a judgement against you then they are the ones with the problems, darlin', not you. :o)
Be happy but be careful.
2007-11-22 04:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Leu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is unacceptable. he should know better not to mess with anyone under age (18) even though u guys might b having fun. it is totally wrong. if ur parents find out they can have him arrested for statutory rape of a minor! he is not being a true friend to ur brother either. how could he mess with his friends little sister. it doesn't matter if ur hot or look much older than 16. where are his morals? what a sicko! i don't think ur family would like this. it will start a lot of drama and someone is liable to get hurt and thrown in jail! show some self control and don't mess around with him (atleast until ur 18)
2007-11-22 04:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by PRINCESS DI 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like this is pedophile to me...I'm sorry but I have sister your age and my friends are the age of your brother's friend. None of the guys I hang out with had even so much as glance at my baby sister in the wrong manner and I'd have to have them seriously hurt.
This guy is sleasy and nasty if he can't find someone his own age to partake of these libations with..you're 16 for goodness. I bet your brother would have a heartache and probably end that friendship.
Please be smart and don't allow yourself to be a victim of thise obviously mentally impaired person.
2007-11-22 05:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Gloria H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is a 25 y.o. doing with a 16 y.o.? He should be put in jail for statutory rape, and you should respect yourself more than to just give it up like that.
If I was your brother I'd kick that "friend" out of my life.
There is a big difference in the emotional and developmental ages between you two as well as chronological age difference.
So yes, to answer your question, 25 is absolutely unacceptable for a 16 y.o., and others WILL judge him.
2007-11-22 05:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Shana B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were like me when i was 16 i really believed that if i put out then the man will eventually fall in love with you i can guarantee that won`t happen so with that in mind i don`t think you`re old enough to have a purely physical relationship you`re are already making me think that you`re thinking of him and getting emotional.Please don`t let this man hurt you.
2007-11-22 04:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by mistress midnight 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes you will be judged. He is too old for you. He can do things like go to bars, gamble and drive!!!
you, on the other hand can not. Your life styles will be in conflict constantly and you will be hurt in the end.
Be smart, don't get involved in that crap.
He doesn't even sound like a decent guy. If he really liked you he would have dated you and went slow with you to make sure you would stick around. I would have to say he's using you and you should be very careful.
2007-11-22 04:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Rhonda Rabbit 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
OH MY GOD!!!! The age gap is neither here nor there the problem is your so young but you are legal after all.......My concern is your brothers best friend should not be taking advantage of you like that. A 25 year old man knows all the right moves to pull a 16 year old girl. I think 'the others' should judge him very harshly!
2007-11-22 04:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by not Stidge again 5 · 9⤊ 2⤋
A 16 year old girl has no business being with a 25 year old man. If he is giving you that much attention, then he has a problem. You are about to get into something which you are not ready. Don't allow yourself to be in that position. Stay away from him before something happens.
2007-11-22 04:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Flyby 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Most likely people will judge you because the age difference...Plus it is kind of unacceptable since he is 9 years older than you and its your brothers friend...Is your brother comfortable with all of this?It may make him feel awkward as well...
2007-11-22 04:20:21 · answer #11 · answered by Your dad thinks I'm hot 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋