Is it wrong having 2 girlfriends, each in a different place?

Question

I spend about 10 days each month in another city because of my job. I got a girlfriend there. But then I began to feel lonely at home and got another girl where i live. I told that to both of them and said that despite I ´d feel jealous, they were free to date other guys in my absence, as long as they had sefe sex. Is that immoral? Am I a jerk? Personally, if both relationships are satisfying to man and woman I don´t see a problem.

Answer 1

No, as long as they are both ok with it.

Answer 2

Your wrong and so are they,1-if you know your job takes you on the road you don't need to be in a relationship at this point of your life.2-If you can tell either one of these women that it is OK to have sex with another person, safe or not you don't need to be in a relationship with them or anyone else.3- if either one of these women, knowingly kept dating you after you said this there crazy, your the one who's living it up, you don't like or respect either one of these women you like having your cake and eating it , they can't like there self. You should of just been friends with both of them, than be in a Fuc-ship cause it's not a relationship , Yes your a jerk but there stupid to let you do this, 4-You will find another women to add on soon cause they won't be enough, your, your problem and you know it.

Answer 3

It is a bit much to ask her to keep them in a sunroom. You don't say where you live, but no matter where it is, it will either be too hot, or too cold at certain points during the seasons and days/nights, animals get sunburned just as easily as humans. Maybe a good compromise would be to offer to pay to have the cats groomed regularly, thus cutting down on hair floating around, as well as getting either allergy shots, or taking medication, if it works for you. If meds/shots don't work, then you'll have to face the compromise or end the relationship if she's unwilling to work w/ you on it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well these days in this crazy world, people do all sorts of immoral things that are considered normal. If you want to be a normal, good person, then you should have one girlfriend only. Otherwise you don't really have a true relationship with any. I know it's hard, but that's definitely the right thing to do.

Answer 5

Well, Bruno, let's look at this situation. If you are not married, not engaged, not living with another romantic partner, not making promises you aren't going to keep and are honest that you are not exclusive in your love exploits with both women and practicing safe sex, I would say that you are doing what most of us have done at one time or another: DATING.

There is nothing wrong with dating more than one person if you are single and honest about it. The problem is that the women might want more and you are going to find yourself in a situation where you have to make a difficult decision. At that juncture, I would counsel a safari to Africa.

Answer 6

Naw your fine I do it all the time in my same city. Do not use different pet names, never call their name out during ***, and keep a journal of dates times so you do not get confused where you went with who. When you do mess up tell them you have been forgetful like that all day. Never wear a new Cologne just tell either of them the one they bought you irritates your skin. Only use NON latex condoms. What you have to remember is that when you are away either of them can and or will be with another man. If you are cool with that....

Answer 7

Oh come on. This is terrible, man! You shouldn't have more than one woman in your life! What if one falls really in love with you, and the other one does too? Who could you choose? Or what if one of them (despite safe sex) gets an STD? What would you do? Grow up, be a real man and stick with one lady! You should value the one you're with, not just use her to cure your loneliness! Personally, I think you need to reassess your life and come up with a humane, modern way of doing things, not just have two "concubines" to come to you when you are in their city. I hope you come up with a solution!

Answer 8

I commend you for being honest with them about this, but I still don't think it is a good idea. You've already admitted that you will feel jealous if they see other guys. Don't you think they will experience the same feelings? The news is full of situations such as yours, which have led to personal tragedy (murder, stalking, assault, kidnapping, etc.). In your heart, you know this is wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be trying to reassure yourself by asking our opinions.

Answer 9

yes u r cheating both of them
and u asked of u were being a gerk i say u r a 100% gerk
it is also immoral iu don't think the woman will be satisfied when u tell them what u just told us

Answer 10

well.. if u told them about ur funs then it doesnt come under headline of cheating and since they r having sex with multiple partners.. there is no string attached to ur relationship... but y keep a gf if u want a girl just for sex or as u said to shoo away ur loneliness.. a sex workers would be lot better... u can change them as many as u want.. y limit to 2 girls and no u donot have to go along with their ideosyncrasys.. and they r far cheaper..

Answer 11

Yes.

You're just trying to justify your sinfulness, your lack of self control and desire for the passing satisfaction of physical pleasure. But there's hope for you get: apologise and end 1 or both relationships, and realise that it was for jerks like us that Jesus died on the cross: that's you're only hope for when you have to give an account of yourself before God when you die.