Hi. I am a mother of 3 small children, 5,3,&1. My husband has been in a prison camp for the past 13 months. We went to visit him last Christmas, which was my one year olds first. I want to keep the children at home this year and let them enjoy a normal Christmas with familiy. Am I wrong to not want my children to spend another Christmas in a prison camp. We visited him again in June of this year, he will be home in March 08. P.s. His crime was nothing bad like drugs or anything, he is a really good man. His charges are from a civil lawsuit. Am I being selfish, my husband says it's ok to stay home for Christmas but I am really torn. Please help....
2007-11-22 00:50:03 · 4 answers · asked by angeliab418 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tough call, but you went last year Hun and you will be surprised how fast March comes round and he will be home again. Why don't you have another Christmas in March when he comes home so you can all have that family Christmas you want.Let your kids be at home this year, can they call Daddy on Xmas day or can they send him cards and a gift so he gets them on Xmas day?. I can see why you are torn but you have to set aside the wants of adults for the needs of children. I wish you a wonderful Christmas and an even happier one in March. oh and don't feel the need to explain why he is in prison, if people are that shallow and judgemental then you don't want their advice anyway. Good Luck.
2007-11-22 01:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your 5-year old kid for his opinion... You might want to have a normal Christmas for your children. But the question is... would they rather spend Xmas at home without their dad, or in prison camp where they could feel the oneness of the family.
Christmas is a very special day. It is all about a child being born in a place without any comfort... but only with the warmth of the love of His parents. So Christmas is not about doing what you want for your own... it's all about doing what others would like to have - SHARING! And depriving your kids of the love of their father would be something awful.
Yes, your husband is willing to let you and the kids to stay home for Christmas... that is his share, that is his sacrifice for you and the kids. What would be your share?
2007-11-22 11:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to set aside what you or your husband want and do whats best and right for the children, and hard though it is, i think at the age they are, you would be best staying home with them, your 5 year old will remember, and you dont want their earliest memory of christmas to be visiting daddy in prison, try and make the best of the day, and visit daddy as soon as you can, tough on him too, but children come first, good luck
2007-11-22 08:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely correct in keeping the kids away from the atmosphere of prison, which can leave undesirable impressions on their minds. It has met approval of your husband also. So, cast off all doubts from your mind and let the kids not apprehend your mental anguish.
2007-11-22 10:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋