My parents wants me to marry a woman I haven't met before. She is not ugly in the picture and also came from a well off family. But the problem is I have a bf and I love him more. I am bi. What should I do? Will I run away and leave all the assets that I am set to receive?
2007-11-21 23:22:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
all i can say is....be true to yourself!!!
it's the way to happiness
2007-11-21 23:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon what you want more, security or your love of the moment. I would suggest you stay where you are, but NOT marry the young woman. To marry her would be totally wrong of you, and you know it. No one deserves to be deceived like that. I'm not going to say arranged marriages don't work, because they can and have worked for centuries in many different cultures. I'm just saying this one would be unconscionable. As for chucking it all for the love of someone else....no. Young man, I am in my sixties; I have seen a lot of stuff go down in my lifetime. When you leave family, heritage, history, wealth, and comfort for one particular person, you are putting an unbelievable burden on that person to become and provide all those things you abandoned for him/her. No one can do that. Sooner or later, you end up resenting that person because everytime they do something to annoy you, you think about all you forfeited for them. And they end up resenting you because they get tired of hearing how you "left it all" for them. So stay where you are. Deal with who you are. But leave marriage out of it for now.
2007-11-21 23:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know whats holding up for you in the furutre. arrange marraige isnt that bad really, but how much do you love your bf??? and please dont keep thinking about the assests money etc. money doesnt make you completely happy. if i were you i would talk and get to know this girl..there is no harm in that. then when you have built trust and friendship tell her, and see what she says. you never know she may even like another person, or she may fall in love with you. just be true and fair to her, you and your bf. but i say get to know this girl she cant be that bad. even if she is you will soon find out.
you dont want to live life full of regrets do you??? or what ifs...
if you went off and maried this girls, all your life your going to be thinking, what if i didnt marry her, or what if i went with my bf, or if u ever got into argument with this girl, this will always be related to, youll be saying to her.omg only if i....
can u see what im saying.....?
also if you went with yoru bf, the same thing might happen
just follow your heart AND common sense....the heart can be broken...(honestly)
but do whats right and good luck babe xxxxx mwh xxx
2007-11-21 23:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Queen B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this were 1600 or 1700 in England, I'd tell you to marry the girl, ignore her and let her do whatever she wants sexwise, and then have your bf live with you as a retainer or something, making sure to employ only discreet servants. Oh and settle as far away from your families with the respective assets as possible.
You'd have to check with the girl to see if she's good with the sham, though.
Barring that, I'd consider trying to pick up your prospective father-in-law in as public a forum as possible. That oughta solve the problem.
2007-11-21 23:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by John F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think arranged marriages are very wrong, and if you parents truly love you they would respect your wishes and your happiness. Try talking to them. But you have to decide if you would rather sacrifice your family for one guy. Also you shouldn't judge the girl on how she looks in the photo, you never know, you might just totally click with her.
2007-11-21 23:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to be with whom you love or u will never be happy.
when u decide what is more important to u, happiness or assets, u will do what is right. Most people would choose the money... but smart people choose being happy.
2007-11-21 23:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by LIzzz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean to your parents and tell them the truth, there is no other way, remember the truth sets you free. It may hurt them, but its the best option.
All the best! Take care.
2007-11-21 23:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anya M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will possibly be able to desire to communicate up! Your mom and dad are actually not the only which has to marry her its you! communicate up earlier its to late, in the event that they love you they be ok alongside with your decision. they may be mad for a quick time yet they gets over it. I moved out of the abode while i grew to become into 18 I were relationship my boyfriend for 2 years. I got here from an exceedingly non secular kinfolk and nicely we grew to become into taught to in basic terms date if we grew to become into waiting for marriage. believe me they by no potential needed me to marry my husband and liked somebody else had I married him nicely i'm beneficial i may be ineffective now. So circulate alongside with your intestine feeling and run with it.Your mom and dad will nonetheless love you no remember what! Mine nonetheless do and that i've got been given pregnant earlier i've got been given married i grew to become into 19 and nonetheless feared disappointing them. i'm beneficial I did yet I by no potential heard otherwise! stable success- Chattyokie
2016-10-02 03:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by ioannidis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could be like some women. Marry, get divorced, get 50% of the assests, then follow whatever you fancy.
2007-11-22 00:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't marry her as it's not fair on her if you love somebody else.
Assets aren't everything. You can work and produce your own in time.
2007-11-21 23:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love or assets ? thats easy love assets are worth nothing love is priceless dont let him go
2007-11-21 23:27:28 · answer #11 · answered by leah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋