..I'm 42, a nurse but have had quite a bit of time off - nursing my terminally ill mum. She died 8thOct. 8th November I had a car crash driving with my best friend. Not my fault. Witnesses etc.. but it was at 40 mph - dual carriageway, and I'm struggling. Had 2 have 2 weeks AGAIN off work. Feel so guilty. Work obviously feel ...Hmm not sure .. but vib not good. Feel there is trust and relationship break down now.
Have fancied working with disadvantaged children for a long time.... Is this the push I need?
I'm 42 with 2 children of my own and my mum grew up in an orphanage.
I think my life experiences will help.
Lacking in confidence and having a self-esteem dip at the mo. Please help. thanks.
2007-11-21 21:51:22 · 16 answers · asked by emilybronte 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
...I have to say - thanks to you ALL for some very helpful and encouraging comments. xxx
I shan't rush into it - but I will change direction without the knee jerk must do it now attitude. Too hard to decide a best answer - will have to put to the vote.
Again, thanks x
2007-11-22 20:40:44 · update #1
Just carry on and live your normal life.
2007-11-21 21:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
As they say 'a change is as good as a holiday'!
I think that you should definately give it a try. If it doesn't work out, you could easily get another job as a nurse, anywhere you want! That's the great thing about nursing. I think your life experiences would definately help you in the new career. Have you already found somewhere to start with it? If not I suggest you start looking now! Please don't worry, or lack confidence, what could go wrong?
I'm very sorry about your Mum and the car accident, all the best xoxo
2007-11-22 06:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With so much stress in your life lately a job change right now may just put even more stress on your life. I would wait for a while to let your emotions settle back down to normal. If you are in fact lacking in confidence or having self-esteem issues, taking on added new responsibilities in a new job right now doesn't sound in your best interest. If you quit your job now and take time off of work you could even face more doubts with so much time available to you. If you cannot tolerate your job at all and are losing it, then a job change might be in your best interest. Think it over cautiously. Sorry about your Mum!
2007-11-22 06:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by bobe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, when I lost trust in my colleagues at work. I got the h*** out and am much more happy. I found more fulfilling things to do where I am appreciated.
Like you said, this is the break you need, the "message" you have to follow if your heart tells you so.
I got into a car crash last week, Nov. 14th. Geesh, it seems like everyone I know has one lately.
Ask yourself what is the best thing to do. The very first thing that comes to you mind IS the right thing. I call it my "little voice" and she is NEVER wrong.
Good luck
2007-11-22 10:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mooniya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand, Love. I am 52 & have suffered several losses myself. I too was a caregiver for my parents. Both suffered for years. I am still searching for answers to many questions.
Here is a website dealing with multiple losses; http://www.cdha.nshealth.ca/patientinformation/nshealthnet/0982.pdf
Look up ‘Understanding Grief From Multiple Losses’ It might help.
Also, experts say Not to make major changes in a state of grief or heightened emotions, if at all possible. Give yourself time, and see how you feel. I'm Not saying this isn't the right move for you. But it might be wise to wait. Of course, you must follow your heart.
I pray we both find peace from our grief, Love. It's a long, hard journey. Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-11-22 08:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Eudora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to lack confidence and self esteem at this age, but dont give up. Get stronger mentally and physically. Take care of yourself and your health and get back on track.Do what you are passionate about, working with disadvantaged children or orphans will be very good.Sorry about the loss of your mum and your car accident. Take care always.
2007-11-22 05:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by live and let live 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Probably time for a change, if you ask me! Nurses are always in demand. Who knows, you might even score a payrise and more benefits! Never be scared to move on and up!
However, if you really do love the job you are in, and need the security of familiarity, etc, wait it out till you are certain. Hope this helps!
2007-11-22 05:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
personally i dont think that you should quit your job perhaps working with children would be good for you a redirection----also there are many non fiction books that you can read alought confronting will give you insperation.good luck you have many many good years ahead of you this is a greiving phase and there is an end to it and although you will never forget remember the good times i wish the best for u and your family
2007-11-22 06:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably need your job at the moment to help take your mind off the problems you had. but by all means if you feel you need a change look around for it as well.
2007-11-22 05:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U said it all in your last sentence! Sorry about your mum, but life goes on. Stop feeling guilty for yourself, & try to feel happy within yourself. U can do it!
2007-11-22 06:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by sinbaad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know what that would be your best option, if you give so much to the world you get the best feeling back and im sure you will do just fine gd lck : )
2007-11-22 06:34:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋