My b/f wants to get back together on occasion after
taking the summer off- though he's no longer living
with me. I want to make sure it's not just ex-sex. It
told him that if I can't see what's in his phone- no deal.
Am I right? I've been completely faithful. And probably
foolish.
2007-11-21 21:02:22 · 10 answers · asked by Linda S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've known him for 6 years- and it's so hard to just let go and realize that he was using me.
2007-11-21 21:07:38 · update #1
There shouldn't be anything to hide from your partner as long as it is a long term serious relationship
2007-11-21 21:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um... I understand why he doesnt want you looking in his phone, perhaps he did do something with someone else while you two were having a break which would be ok right, because you wernt together?
Further more maybe he didnt do anything and because he feels you dont trust him, there might be some innocent photos or messages that could be taken way out of context by you.
Dont just take his phone without permission, that is even more wrong then him not letting you see.
Sit down and discuss it calmly, ask him the reasons why he dosent want you seeing it and you calmly tell him the TRUE reasons why you do.... see if you can come to some agreement... but ultimatly you need to trust eachother and let eachother have a little bit of privacy.
If you cannot trust him without seeing his phone, and he will not let you see it then you might have to let this one go...
The no trust no us policy is definatly a smart one...
Good luck negotiating, and remember, try not to get mad at him... calm and collected comuinication is best for getting across your point!
xxx
2007-11-21 23:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind why you broke up in the first place. Is he going to do the same thing to you again next summer? I would be very leary about letting him back into your life.
By the way, I am sure that he did not take pictures of ALL that happen.
What is this "on occasion" deal anyway. Sounds like he just wants you for a booty call when he can't get anyone else. that is baloney!!!! Tell him that he can get it wherever he was during the summer, but he will have to earn his place back in your bed!!!
2007-11-21 21:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get back together with him, it will only be ex-sex.
Although it's hard, you must accept the fact that the relationship is over. Going backwards only make you miss your blessings and opportunities that's in front in of you.
Forget about him and forget about his photos.
Even if you felt you were foolish in the past, you don't have to continue to play the fool.
Learn from your mistakes and move onward and forward.
2007-11-21 21:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always see his photos in his camera, but if it is a camera phone, it is better you tell him before you touch it. It will only make him respect you more.
2007-11-21 21:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you mean your ex-bf wants to get back together.
I'd move on if I were you. He's only going to stay around for the sex. You deserve better.
2007-11-21 21:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by Someone in CA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, a lack of trust is always a bad way to start off. showing him a little bit of trust and also allowing him to keep some things private go a long ways.
2007-11-21 21:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by greekneb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you right... maybe he was "on vaction with other women" and you were faithfull all this time. Make him show you the pics and if he doesn't believe me he has something to hide from you. Dump him.. and find someone else.
2007-11-21 21:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Cosita_Rica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try again with him try again...but you need a clean slate and he shouldnt be subjected to ''I wana see whats in ur phone''.....
If thats ur deal breaker then it seems you dont trust him and if you dont then why do you wana be with him anyways...you have nothing if you dont have trust??
2007-11-21 21:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just gave your self away if he would not want you to see certain things he will delete them and youll never kno they existed.... :P
next time be a lil more unpridictable...
2007-11-21 21:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lanka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋