My boyfriend is convinced that i am cheating on him, he tells me that i am too beautiful and too sexy to be faithful. he keeps accusing me of flirting, dating and sleeping with other guys, which i am not. i am very faithful to him, but he seems convinced that i am cheating on him. and he keeps telling me that he doesn't know what he will do to me if he finds out that i am cheating on him........
he also calls me names such as bi*tch, cu*nt, who*re, sl*ut, etc.....when we are in bed together or when he is kissing me.
other than that, he is a very nice guy with me, but i don't know what to think of him......
what do you think about this man, why is he so certain that i am cheating on him ? and why does he call me all these dirty degrading names when he seems to be such a nice guy ?
please help me !
2007-11-21 17:48:21 · 15 answers · asked by psychic clara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he has been hurt before...
Yes, I've had experiences like this before and I've found out
that they have been hurt by a girl before and they hold a grudge
on fear of it happening again. So they take it out on you that way. Its definitely psychological and he needs to see a counselor if you want to stay with him,
The only solution is accept and correct.
Other than that my advice would be to move along before its
too late and you get stuck with this type of treatment.
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2007-11-21 17:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading this post and the other one like it, , I am convinced that you are in a relationship with a young man who either is, or will become an abuser. He is demeaning, and does not trust you. A fact which is his problem, and has nothing to do with you.
A nice man will not call you names. He will encourage you with positive statements. He will tell you how wonderful you are; and how lucky he is to have you.
I think you need to learn what a good relationship is, and find out how to protect yourself from a man who may bring you harm. Reference how gto know if you are in an abusive relationship. Google it, or take the time to read books on relationships
Please don't wait til he gives you "a reason"
The fact that he doesn't trust you is enough
2007-11-25 00:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are two separate problems. first the name calling; some guys do that in bed to create a feeling of dominance, but it should be fixed if you talk to him abotu it and say that it bothers you. back it up by stopping all activities if he slips up. its degrading and annoying. i cant stand when guys do it. if there is a certain word that doesnt bother you...tell him he can use tht. as for the cheating thing. ever hear of macbeth? if he sits and accuses you of cheating over and over...it may be because he has cheated and sees how you act and thnks that it was liek he acted after he cheated? i could be way off but thats how it works sometimes, especially when they obsess over it.
2007-11-21 17:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by 00000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time when someone accuses u of cheating, they are the one that is actually doing it. Have u told him that u dont like the name calling? I mean a lot of guys will call there gf names in bed because they think it turns them on or something. If u dont like it tell him.
2007-11-21 17:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Aniya's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line Faye is that you wont convince him if he is so insecure. Sounds like a shame though as you sound like a nice girl. All you can do is tell him you wont and do not what ever you do promise to call him every day your on holiday. Go have a good time come back and see what he is like then. If he thinks you have then he isn't the one
2016-05-24 23:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found in the past that the person who is accusing their partner of cheating is usually the guilty one. The pass the heat off on the other person. I know because I've done this myself and through counseling I learned this could be true even for you.
2007-11-21 17:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Fred And Wilma F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly. . you need to ascertain whether hes has been the victim of a love cheat before. . i suspect that he has.
you need to be patient with him . . sit him down and explain that not all girls cheat and that you have no intention of doing this to him.
the likely reason that he calls you these things is that this is the way some previous partner has made him feel about females. . explain that you are hurt by this and ask him to find a substitute for the hurtful names. . something sexy and exciting.
2007-11-21 17:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by heart of ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf is very insecure...that's why he thinks that someone who is as beautiful as you would settle for someone like him...that's why he thinks you must be cheating because he thinks he doesnt deserve you...you can try talking to him one more time to convince him that you love him and him alone...tell him that you are getting tired of defending yourself against his accusations...tell him he has to trust you or else break off with you...his lack of trust with you may seem to be a small issue now, but im sure its going to cause a strain on your relationship sooner or later...so if he cant trust you, why bother staying with him when it seems he doesnt love you enough to trust you...
as for the name calling, i think he thinks its sexy to do it...probably he thinks it heightens the excitement...if you dont like it...tell him so....
2007-11-21 18:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not you should be. He has issues that are going to eventually cause you to miserable. Leave now and find someone that can appreciate who you are not just worry because you look good that you are going to be bad. Never allow yourself to be demeaned by anyone.
2007-11-21 17:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jedday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you flurting ???? if not that means he has cheated on you and is trying to find fault with you so he wont be such a sorry ***
2007-11-21 17:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋