okies so i just got home from class around 10ish. So i walk in the kitchen to ask my mom why she call me, and she called me during class when i didn't want to pick up. She goes and asks me AGAIN to borrow more money. >:[ how am i suppose to go early Christmas shopping? than she goes and says that oh ill pay you back on that 15 of December, when i know she doesn't have the money to. Anyhooters ... i went upstairs to go check my e-mail and such. Than she comes in my room and asks me again O_o I didn't give her a answer but now she's getting all butthurt cause i wont let her borrow 300 dollars and saying that if you wont let me borrow than FINE, . Why would she say that? and she knows that i need to buy new cloths and the stupid thing is i gave her 700 dollars from my financial aid not so long ago like i said in my other question i gave her 400 to fix her teeth cause she broke it, 500 is to pay back her friend. I only received 1,500 and its like she is taking it all.
2007-11-21 17:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by nancy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just expressing myself
i don't wanna keep it in, cause ill regret it later.
man making me mad
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2007-11-21 17:49:05 · update #1
She knows you have the money and will keep trying to worry it out of you.
You need to start stonewalling her.
"Sorry, Mom, but I had to pay for a lot of stuff... I really have nothing left to give... here, have my last $20."
That way she walks away with something in her hand.
Your mom is a mooch. She is not borrowing the money, she is shaking you down. You need to wean her off of this bad habit she has developed, or you will find yourself in DEEP debt with financial aid, and none of it going to your education. She needs to pull herself together and support herself.
2007-11-21 18:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard when a parent does this, but your mother is using you. She should be taking care of you and not the other way around. It sounds like you're in college (financial aid), and maybe it's time to move out. It sounds like you'll be getting this as long as you live at home and probably after. It will just be easier to say, "No" when you aren't there every day.
Until then, tell your mother that the bank is closed until she can pay back what she still owes you.
2007-11-21 18:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by lmanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. I know, I've been there. After my parents divorced, my mom got herself into some serious financial trouble. My brothers and I lent her money all of the time. Sometimes it mad me mad, but I realized that she sacrificed a LOT more than money for us, and we helped her out when we could. In the end, she ended up making a fortune off of nothing other than her strong will and perseverance. (that's a different story) She's helped us MANY times since then, and I'm forever grateful. What it comes down to is this: You are family. She is in need, and you should help her if you can. You never know what the future will bring, and even if you never get the money back, you know in your heart that you did what you could to help the woman who sacrificed so much just to see you alive and well.
2007-11-21 18:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't feel bad. She is an adult, she was doing fine before you got the money. If she can afford to buy you a 200 dollar cell phone she's not hurting for anything. Let her know your plans and that its not free money that you will have to pay it back so you want to use it in the best way. Good luck sweetie, she will love you know matter what you do.
2016-05-24 23:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lending money to anyone, especially family, is a bad idea. If you can't afford to 'give' it to them then you can't afford to 'lend' it. That way if it's not paid back you won't be hurting. It's horribly wrong for mom to borrow from your financial aid money. She probably feels like she raised you so you should be willing to help her out. However, she's wrong for borrowing that money. She obviously has budgeting issues if she's borrowing money from you to pay others back. Just tell her you're sorry but you can't afford to lend her anymore. She's going to be angry but maybe she'll realize you're not a bank. She's an adult. It's not up to you to bail her out when she breaks something, overspends, or owes someone else money. (I'm a mom and would NEVER borrow from my kids!) I've also lent my own mother money but always made sure it wasn't going to run me short if I didn't get paid back.
2007-11-21 19:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing I know is:
When lending "family" money ...
Might as well hand it to them as a gift
because your not going to see it again.
-Seriously
No, Is "No" If someone can't understand that
thank god you can. (and understand what enough is)
Smile and move along.
:)
2007-11-21 18:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Aliens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, dont give your mum the money, she'll never pay it back. she'll just come up with more excuses everytime. It's YOUR money, not hers, so dont feel bad.
2007-11-21 19:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does she need all this money for anyways? and what about her job? sounds like she just needs to learn to save like you.
2007-11-21 19:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she retired?Think about yourself in that age.
2007-11-21 21:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by DK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋