omg!! i cant stand myy mom anymore! i hate her!! she is getting on my nerves i am getting blamed for everything! even when its my brothers fault!im 13 and he's 6 he makes a mess who gets in trouble for it? me! he yells who gets in trouble for it? me!!! im getting in trouble for every little thing!! sometimes i jsut want to kill her!! i think about doing suicide because of her!! she spoiled and she's happy as long as she gets what she wants! she doesnt care about me at all!! only my brother!! what do i do?????
2007-11-21 17:29:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!! Get over it your 13 and you feel no different than anybody else did when they were 13. Killing yourself is never the answer, life is to great, and once your old enough to get out and see things, you will realize it.
2007-11-21 17:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't for your mum you wouldn't be on this earth.
Take that chip off your shoulder and grow up.
Look after your own feelings, and stop worrying about what is happening to your sister.
Of course, your mother loves you, it is you who making negative remarks out of nothing.
You are 13, not 23, or 33/ One day you will be though and I hope that your mother will still be alive then, so that you can realize that being 13 is like going in a tunnel one end and coming out the other end a few years later, and much wiser.
You change your attitude if you want to be happy and you respect and love your mother and your brother.
Lets put you in an imaginary scenario. One day you get a phone call at school, your mother and brother has been in a car accident and have both died at the scene. What would your feelings be then!
Time is precious with your family, you will not be living with them for to many years more. Enjoy it, because you will then be able to behind you and have no regrets.
Change your attitude and everything around you will change.
2007-11-22 01:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey Boz, just chill a minute, Okay? It is normal to hate your Mother. You must be mature for your age cuz usually it happens when you are 15! Really! So, you feel like you are getting in trouble for everything! I think alot of us have felt that way. And it is very, very normal to feel that your Mom cares more about your brother. And sometimes you can be right about that. But it could be she cares in a different way for each of you. I bet your Mom does love you but you don't feel it. Moms can love kids and not like their behavior. It sounds like she wants you to take care of your brother and watch over him to keep him out of trouble. She must trust you to do that. She's an adult and adults have a tendency to want what they want. I don't think it is a matter of being spoiled. We are all happy as long as we get what we want.
Now I want you to stop these suicide thoughts, Okay? What is the sense? You will be outta there in a few years. I honestly know that you can't imagine ever hitting that magic age of 18 right now because I was your age once and I do remember that I thought I would die before I ever got out of that house!!! But you can do it. Start planning and that will make you feel a little better. You can start babysitting and saving money, do well in school so you can decide on a career so you can afford to get out right away. Just try keeping a better eye on your brother and that will take some of the heat off of you. This is life, Boz, it normally stinks. But there are alot of great things out there for you, I know it. don't feel bad about hating your Mom right now. And stop feeling bad about yourself. Life changes all the time and it will change for you!!!!!!!
2007-11-22 02:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by dallas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie. I believe that you *feel* like she has no love for you...but I also believe that she really does. It just doesn't feel like it right now.
Before I say anything else, I want to ask that you stop thinking of suicide. Please? This bad time is *going* to pass, and if you kill yourself, you'll be missing a wonderful life for yourself in the future.
When I was younger, my mom made me INSANE at times. I remember wishing terrible things on her, and being convinced that she hated me. Now that I am grown, I look back and see that she was a human being, just like me, and she was having problems that I couldn't have understood or known about.
Do you think she may have some odd things going on that she is keeping from you? Are there things happening in the family that are affecting her behavior?
Trust me, I am not saying you are completely wrong and that your mom is perfect. I am a mom now, and I know I make my share of mistakes. But look deep inside and try to think about what could be happening with her that would make her change like this.
Did you two get along before and now that has changed? Are you parents fighting more?
I am not saying she is right to be harder on you now, either, but do you think she is trying to make an example of you in front of your younger brother? I know that doesn't make it right, I just wanted your opinion.
I'm sorry I can't help more, but please just remember that this bad time will pass, and your life will be easier and happier. Moms and daughter often spend a couple of years fighting and then become close. I hope that happens for you, too!
Good luck!
2007-11-22 01:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Misty P. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! I can understand how you are feeling. I have 3 older BRs. 3younger BRs.and sister. I'm in the middle and the black sheep. Whether or not it was me that did the damage in whatever the situations, I like, you got blamed. First, when your BR, gets older he'll be much kinder and very protective for you, trust me on that, so for now just let it things concerning him take it's own course. Secondly and most importantly. When it comes to your mother, hate is a very strong emotion and can blind you from seeing the light a the end of the tunnel. My own mother to this very day refuses to even talk to me,and believe me when I tell you that this continues to hurt deep inside where I am unable to fix it. The control to fix was never mine from the beginning. This however is not the case for you. Talk to your mom and truly the her how you feel, whats causing you to think and feel the way you are, how you think she contributes to these feelings and how you and her together can find a solution. Take it from me your mom loves you more that she's able to express just like you are having a hard time expressing to her how you honestly feel. Please I hope and pray to hear some good news regarding your situation, soon! "GOD"bless and take care of yourself and little brother, take care.
2007-11-22 01:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... I know exactly how you feel. I used to absolutely hate my mom and every now and then I still feel that way. She used to be an amazing mom and then when my dad left she began to use cuss words she always blamed me (the oldest child) for literally everything. I wanted so hard to please her and for her to just love me, but it seemed the more I tried the more she got mad. I often counted how many cuss words she said in a day... it was the only thing I could do from exploding in anger. In 24 hours she cussed 132 times. It hurt so bad. I was convinced she cared about no one but herself. She was always making me clean up after my younger siblings... it made me so upset. I never made the mess, yet she blamed me for the stuff everywhere. I cried every night so confused and sick of life. I actually began making plans to run away. Afterall... who would care? Certaintly not my mom. That's where I was SO incredibly wrong. My mom acted this way because she felt like a failure. The love of her life (my dad) just left her and she felt like she had no control over the second loves of her life... my siblings and I. She really didn't. She made a huge mistake and so did I.
Your mom may not show her love for you, but be patient with her. You may say you hate her, but deep down you love her. Admit it... although you can't stand her, if she left you... you'd be miserable. Not that you already are, but learn to respect her and she will respect you. Age 13 is an incredible rough time for girls and their parents. Suicide is definitely not the answer. I wish I had more advice to give you... I'll be praying for you.
Please visit... www.teenhopeline.com ... it's an amazing website where you can talk to people who honestly care about you. Since you'll never meet them it's easy to tell them about everything going on in your life. I'd strongly encourage you to talk with a "live" person on this website and tell them exactly what you wrote on yahoo answers.
2007-11-22 02:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kristina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all reality... what do you think suicide is going to do? You wanna off yourself for something this stupid. Seriously you are 13! You aint seen nothing yet that life and it's unfairness has to offer. On a brighter note, sit your mother down and talk to her. Mother's are very understanding people. However, they do get wrapped up in being moms so you may occasionally have to point things out to her. Dont be rude though, just tell her how you feel!
2007-11-22 01:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by lexichic66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her. I remember what it was like when I was your age. And it was hard. Ask her why you are getting the blame. She may not realize she is doing it. You maybe the one who listens and your bro does not. She may find it is easier to tell you than him, because you will do it. I remember once when my mom and I got into it, I told her that I was going to tell everyone that I was her kid, that way if I was so bad they would all looking bad at her. It made her stop and think. After that she was not as hard on me. I might work for you. Wait until you both are calmed down and sit down and talk. You may find a better way to deal with each other. If that does not work go to the counselor at school and talk to them about it. Take care of yourself and good luck!!!
2007-11-22 01:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kay A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam your just like every other teenager...i use to say that when i was 13 but never mention i was gonna suicide im 17 now and i dont hate my mom your not a little kid no more why do you think she blames you because your older and his little you swear there gonna blame a little kid and if you wanna suicide then kill yourself because to tell you the truth *** all emos your 1 of them... you to litltle to understand...if you think you hate your life you should live how getto i live over here its nothing compare over there my mom use to to drugs and scream at me and hit me and my dad use to do nothing about it my mom was about to kill me she was chocking me so hard i passed out...so they took her to jail she spend 4 years of her life time there and as soon as she got out of jail she told me shell never do that again i was crying so much now she is cool but you see thats nothing compare over here...you think just bcuz she blames you for everything your gonna sucide thats stupid you should of live my life and youll know how hard was it for me and a better reason to sucide..
2007-11-22 01:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all parents will listen to you when your mature about the situation. dont go yelling and screaming I DIDN'T DO IT
they wont listen...trust me.
be calm and say. mom i'm sorry but i didn't do anything honest, but i'll help you clean up the mess. etc. etc.
it show that she cxan trust you and next time maybe she'll believe you.
some parent just assume becuase your a teenager it mean s yor always getting into trouble
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2007-11-22 01:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by :| 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋