My 6 year old has a bed wetting problem, could you help?

Question

She has been doing this since last year, and I tried having her go to the bathroom before bedtime and stop drinks at 6 PM except for the occasional water after her snack.
She goes to bed at 7:30.
Her doctor said her kidneys are fine, and she'd out go this.
Do you have any remedies to prevent this?
Should I head to the Pull-Up? or Goodnights?

And it's not just bed-wetting, her teacher called me last week saying that she wet her pants in class and never asked to go to the bathroom.

What can I do?
I feel bad that she might be (and I'm pretty sure she is) embarassed

She doesn't take any other medicine.

Answer 1

Sounds like there's something going on - probably at school - that she's not telling you. Or then again, the school toilets could just be unutterably foul, or she's embarrassed to ask to go to the loo during lessons. She's only 6 - ask what happens during PE sometimes when they've all been jumping up and down a lot - she won't be the only one.

As for the night time thing, best i can suggest is do what I had to for a while with my son; wake her up at your bed time and walk her to the loo. Make sure she's awake. Don't just lift her, she'll get even more used to weeing in her sleep.

Answer 2

First, there is nothing too unusual about a six or seven year old that wets the bed. I am not saying this to be mean, but just pointing out that there are many, many grade-school children that still do. It is normal, and he has many classmates who still do so as well. Go to the diaper aisle of the grocery store or Wal-Mart and you'll see pull-up style diapers that are made to fit kids into their teens! In a class of one-hundred students, your son is probably about one of ten to fifteen who still wet the bed. Show your son the diaper aisle at the store, specifically how many of the products are for kids bigger than him; and show him some of the online sites that are made for kids and teens who still wet. This will help his self-esteem some, that is knowing that he is not the only one. Frankly, even some adults still wet the bed (about 1% of the adult population suffers some form of enuresis). Although it is an embarrassing problem, it is one that can be effectively managed or overcome. The most important thing in that is to just not make an issue out of it. This would put more stress on him, and potentially make it worse or minimize any progress. Unfortunately, there really is no "breaking" him from enuresis, though there are effective ways to manage the condition, and a few behavioral methods to correct it over time. By now, his body should have grown enough for him to have nighttime control. Some children do need longer, but he should have a visit to his pediatrician for a good evaluation. There are some tests that should be done to make sure there is nothing wrong with the "plumbing" or "wires" that control his bladder. I would anticipate he would be referred to some specialist doctors, too. Using a mattress protector will keep the bed itself safe, regardless of the use of any diaper-type protection he may or may not wear. The use of diapers/pull-ups is acceptable, it will help him to get a good rest and keep his bed clean; but he should don, doff, and dispose of them on his own. Also, on those nights when the diaper leaks, he should handle striping his mattress, and you should teach him how to make the bed. This is not punishment; but it is teaching him to be responsible and take care of his own problems without belittling or chastising him. Limiting, but not completely stopping drinks before bedtime is advisable. If he is truly thirsty, then he does need to have something to drink; but sips, not gulps... Waking him to go to the toilet is good, and you can also consider setting an alarm clock in his room to go off every few hours to wake him up. You can use a bedwetting alarm, which goes off when it senses wetness. The sensor can be placed in his underwear or diaper. Both alarms are a means of behavior modification, but will also take time to be effective. It may take weeks to months; but don't give up. Anyway, hang in there. This is a normal part of childhood, he is not alone; and neither are you. Just be patient, reinforce that you know it is not his fault, and don't dwell on the topic. Cheers!

Answer 3

For the night wetting, I'd recommend an alarmed pad that detects wetness on the bed. It worked for my niece who outgrew pull-ups at age nine and had to finally learn to stay dry at night. But the daytime wetting sounds like there is a little more going on. My daughter gets upset when she wets the bed at night and will sometimes stop trying to stay dry during the day, but she's only four. Have you tried asking your daughter if she feels the urge to go? It might be a medical problem your doctor didn't pick up.

Answer 4

i bet she loves to play and thinks about playing all the time.

you need to be patient and loving.

when both of you are in a good mood and really hitting it off really good, ask her in an off hand way;

you can also start by telling her about some of the things that bothered you when you were a child.

? what are some of the things that bother you most?

? what is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?

very likely she will tell ou it has to do with bed wetting.

generally, the child is really tired and really does not want to get out of bed.

she could also be afraid at night. try a night light.

what you can do is help to cut back excess play.

less liquids.

the other thing you need to do is to be supportive and loving.

encourage her to call you if she needs to go.

ask her if she needs to go as many times as you remember, but not too much.

do not cause her any embarrassment, pain or discomfort.

this is where a loving mom makes all the difference in the world in helping her daughter.

good luck!!

Answer 5

Hi Gerie. You are a wise mother to take this situation seriously. How sad that your child's doctor does not!

Possible causes of bed wetting and daytime wetting include:

1) food allergies (especially milk/dairy or wheat - e.g. Celiac Disease)

2) subtle nerve problems caused by spinal and/or pelvic subluxations (biomechanical imbalances in the lower spine and pelvis)

3) 'gut problems' such as intestinal dysbiosis, bacterial overgrowth, candida, and/or leaky gut syndrome - these problems result from the use of antibiotics, pain killers (e.g. advil/motrin), and/or acid-inhibitor drugs (e.g. nexium)

4) heavy metal toxicities (e.g. lead, mercury, etc.)

5) environmental 'allergies' - chemicals, etc.

You will need to find a good Chiropractor, Naturopathic Physician, Certified Clinical Nutritionist and/or medical doctor trained in environmental medicine or functional medicine to help you sort through these possibilities.

Your daughter deserves to be healthy. Something is wrong. You are her protective angel. Best wishes and good luck in finding a solution for her.

Answer 6

Talk to your pediatrician. I would say that some kids wet the bed up to 9 or 10 years old, but if she wasnt wetting the bed and then started recently, she might be under stress or having emotional problems...how is she doing at school?

Answer 7

well i suggest that u do try the pull up or goodnights because it is just cleaner lol.
and it is very emberassing so just casually mention once that she can talk to u whenever she wants. and maybe mention that she NEEDS to go the bathroom anytime she thinks she needs to use one. and that it is ok to go to the bathroom.
and since she goes to bed at 7 30. u should maybe have her stop drinkin a lil earlier than that and maybe wakin her up in the middle of the night and makin her use the restroom if thats not a problem.

Answer 8

Poor little thing! I would get her pull ups for school and night time until you see a urologist, ask Dr. for a referral, because everything you have done is what should be done. Wake her during the night? maybe the muscles in her bladder are relaxed too much? Is she on any prescription drugs? Like meds for something else? If not try to get her into a Urologist, thats their specialty.

Answer 9

tell her she needs to ask to go the bathroom at school ortherwise people will see that you wet your pants
at home, don't let her drink anything an hour before bedtime and make her go to the bathroom before bedtime. she needs to wear PullUps and put those cotton paper sheets under her at night so if she wets herself, it wont stain her sheets

Answer 10

I would do the pull up thing, but more important I would remain positive and give her encouragement and not let anyone talk down to her for this problem