2007-11-21 17:08:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't have too many rules to begin with! So I am very strict about the rules I do have! Like anything to do with drugs is strictly not tolerated, even if I have to call the cops!!!
2007-11-21 20:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the rule. If it's something very offensive to you, and something that should be an obvious rule to everyone (e.g., you're a non-smoker and someone lights up in your house), you need to say something, like: "Excuse me. I don't like people smoking in my house." But if it's something that's not so blatant, for example, they're wearing their shoes in your house, even though most people take their shoes off right away (but perhaps they're also wearing a nice outfit, and they'd look weird without their matching shoes), you could choose to ignore it. I often will ignore small things, depending on who the guests are, and how sensitive I think they are. I want to be a good host and not hurt their feelings. Especially if they're are new friends. Old friends you can be more honest with. But with new people, you must tread carefully. Let the small things slide, but something that outrageous, by all means, say something. You probably wouldn't want that person in your house again, anyway, if they're that boorish!
2007-11-21 18:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Char 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who my guests are.
If the guests ignoring the house rules are close family members or friends, I ask to speak with them in private and gently let them know that I have certain preferences in my home that I'm certain they weren't aware of before. (Assuming that they didn't know beforehand takes the responsibility off of them so that they're not embarrassed about it.)
If the guests ignoring the house rules are acquaintances, I grin and bear it, but remember to never invite them back.
If the guests ignoring the house rules are my in-laws or anyone else I already dislike, I ask them to leave.
2007-11-21 18:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Avie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The key here is to enforce the rules from the beginning. You must have a no tolerence policy. Don't ask them please not to do it again, rather tell them not to do it in the first place. State the rule with confidence, restate it if neccessary, then let them know they will have to either comply with the rule (whether it be taking shoes off or not getting sloppy drunk), or leave, no exceptions. It's a lot easier to be a bit rude or mean in the beginning than to try to change a behavior that has already been established. In short, NIP IT IN THE BUD.
2007-11-22 18:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 23:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guests ignore your house rules, you'll have to have alternatives for them. If you don't allow shoes, have readily available throw away booties. If you don't allow smoking, have an area(outside,possibly),where you can lead them to that has an ash tray,and something clean for them to stand on, I had a party and made nice little signs that read, "No Smoking Please," or you could have one that says, " No feet on the table,Please"
2007-11-22 11:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the "house rules" are, and how long the guests are staying. If it's a "no shoes inside" rule, I'd let it slide. Many people are uncomfortable with that. If it's a "no smoking inside" rule, I'd politely ask them to stop or leave. You have to pick your battles.
2007-11-21 17:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
If I had kids I would explain to them that the rules have to be set, and followed by all in order for them to be effective.
If I didn't have kids, I would just make sure that they knew the rules and ask them to follow them. Otherwise, I would have to kick them out, politely of course. ^.^
2007-11-21 23:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by samurai_fairy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the house rules. For example, I know someone who doesn't like alcohol in the house.... it is a well-known rule of her home, but if you just brought it in once, she would just ask you not to do it again and to refrain from drinking it.
If it was something small like not taking off clean shoes when they enter, I would either ask gently "can you please take off your shoes?" or ignore it.
2007-11-21 18:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my rules are no smoking in my house and leave your shoes by the door if u cant follow them u cant stay out in the garage or get to step
2007-11-21 17:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Devil Doc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋