Well theres this girl my friend told me about so i decited to talk 2 her so we gave each othera call and we talked for about 3 weeks and i seen her on myspace and she was cute but then when i saw her in person her face was full of pimples and all of the sudden all the things i felt for her just went away i didnt even wanna look at her.....am i supperficial and shallow..?
2007-11-21 16:05:12 · 23 answers · asked by HOllyWOOD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um, yes.
2007-11-21 16:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say when I don't know you, but I think the fact that you're even asking this question proves you're not shallow. If you were you wouldn't care about it at all. It seems the picture you had of her before you saw her in person didn't really exist, so in a way she's not the person you thought she was if you get my drift. Don't feel bad, but do be friendly. Does she really need to know that you ever considered there might be more? If you've only been friends so far that doesn't have to change.
2007-11-22 00:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tammar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so easy to "fall in love" online because as people we are attracted to words, and it's so easy to make your fantasy person out to be as beautiful on the outside as you know they are on the inside. But, as much as we can love the inside of a person, you have to have that physical, sexual attraction or it will never work. That's not being shallow, it's being truthful. The men that I am attracted to, another woman might find ugly, and the men I find ugly are attractive to someone... that's why we were all made differently.
I wouldn't tell her that the reason you don't want to be with her is because of the "face full of pimples", but I would let her know that the chemistry isn't there for you. If you enjoyed your conversations I wouldn't just toss her out, hang on to her as a friend because good friends are really hard to find!
Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving :-)
2007-11-22 00:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by angielynn219 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes and no. I wouldn't go out with a girl if I didn't find her looks at least halfway appealing. That's part of being a man. Looks count for men. But, it seems you liked talking to her and once you saw her picture, she was out. Not the most flattering thing to someone. I can't blame you (if you thought she was ugly) because I, too, am a guy, so I understand. But, that was pretty shallow. I'd do the same thing.
2007-11-22 00:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes and no.
You can't help how you feel. All you can do is control what you do about the way you feel.
You should be a gentleman about it, and even if you don't ask her out, don't be mean or disrespectful about it. This is one of those cases where a little white lie is better than an ugly and hurtful truth.
Besides, she may go see a dermatologist next week and be a pimple-free major hottie by January. You don't want to flush your chances then by being crappy to her now!
Good luck!
2007-11-22 00:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by RH Arizona 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are indeed very superficial and shallow! Ask yourself this question - would you prefer to have a partner who is beautiful, intelligent but bad personality or someone who is average looking but has a good personality? My friend, inner beauty is more important! Outward appearance will change with time.
2007-11-22 00:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Forthright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like someone you might be able to be a friend with, but for a girl friend there should be some attraction. It's better to be honest about it with yourself. Do be kind to the girl, though don't lead her on. Undoubtedly she is well aware of her problem, and hates it more than you do.
2007-11-22 00:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it, yeah. But I can get where you're coming from. Attraction is key to any relationship. Not the most important factor but, the first one we all consider! So don't feel too bad.
2007-11-22 00:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...yeah. But then, it depends on how long u knew her. It depends on how old u are, and well...did u just like her for her looks? IF u did, then u did. OH well. but that doesn't mean u won't ever fall for a girls' personality.
2007-11-22 00:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah thats pretty shallow..... im gunna laugh when u get pimples and then some gurl that u like a lot all of a sudden dumps u for a stupid reason like that ....... i hate guys that are like that.... lol no i dont ahve pimples but thats pretty cold..... u hsould liek her for who she is not how bad or good she looks... im glad i have a good man
2007-11-22 00:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty shallow, give her a chance. She might be the one, never know.
2007-11-22 00:10:04 · answer #11 · answered by brittanyiscool90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋