My girlfriend has been having a hard time with my family. Basically, she feels as if my family is taking me away from her. My family and my girlfriend are almost opposites. Because of a destructive past, my girlfriend is not very open with people but is very caring and loving towards those she does know. But my family is caring and open regardless (everyone is welcomed in their home.). I feel as if my girlfriend does not understand my family, because my girlfriend's family is not as close as mine. I try to tell her that she is the most important person in my life, and that i would do anything for her, and although she accepts and returns the love, she still thinks they will eventually tear us apart. I dont know how to make her understand that my family is not against her.
2007-11-21 16:03:28 · 4 answers · asked by Smokey_the_fogged 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think she thinks that your family is against her. I think she has created in her mind that if you choose them, you are rejecting her. This is pretty destructive behavior, learned from the past that you mentioned. You'll either need to work with her and show her that you're all in this together, or you'll need to put some space between the two of you.
2007-11-21 16:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you go over to your family's, is there any reason why you can't bring her WITH you???? I think if you TRULY care for this girl, you could sit down with your mom and dad and explain the situation and I am sure that if your parents are as good and loving as you have made them sound, they will fully understand and take her under their wing and RE-ASSURE her that she will be treated LIKE SHE WAS THEIR DAUGHTER and not a stranger... maybe your mom can call her up and take her to lunch or something... that would definitely make your GF feel more like part of your family and then MIIGHT give her more security as far as your relationship with your family...
2007-11-21 16:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't cure insecurity with logical arguments. This clinging to an irrational idea that stirs up conflict is classic neurotic behavior and unless you're a trained psychologist or psychiatrist you're not going to cure her. If she won't get professional help, about all you can do is wait for her to outgrow it, if you're up to it.
2007-11-21 19:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perchance she do not have that type of closeness inclusive of her kin and isn't any longer familiar with kin being that "up-close" on your organization. perchance she is afraid that they are going to be extra desirous about her existence too to the point that it may experience that they are meddlesome. some actually everyone appears extra inner most and prefer to set limits on how in touch human beings/acquaintances/kin are of their existence. She may be afraid that they are going to be intrusive or over-step their limitations.
2016-10-24 21:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋