I don't want to say that parents are always at fault but I think it has to do a lot with upbringing and being taught right from wrong. The household may not be abusive but the child witnesses violence on the street. It is then when somebody should teach the child that violence is wrong. The child may hear song lyrics that are misogynist but they should still be taught to respect women. It takes a villiage to raise a child. Society as a whole should step up to the plate but the parents should be the first point of contact. All to often parents are leaving the job of raising the kids to the schools rather than giving them a proper foundation for the schools and society to build on. Just because you live in a "happy home" does not mean that there are outside influences that may be negative. Parents have to be conscious of that and not sweep things under the rug as if they lived in a vacuume.
2007-11-21 16:08:00
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answered by CAITLIN 5
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Some things are almost always caused by a lack of good parenting-if a person turns out angry, self centered, greedy, physically or emotionally abusive towards others, etc. those are all things that children should learn not to do/be from a young age and so yes, I would think the parents taught them that behavior (or didn't teach them the correct behavior).
Some things are decisions that people make as adults and are not so much a reflection of poor parenting-drug use, being irresponsible with money or employment, etc.
However, no matter how terrible a person's parents were, I believe that every person reaches a certain age (about a year or two after they leave their parent's home) where they should be held accountable for their own actions. They have seen enough of the outside world to realize that what they are doing is not the right thing and, as an adult, it is their responsibility to stop blaming their parents and make a change for themselves.
That being said, it is not always something wrong with the kid that makes them a "black sheep". A lot of times the black sheep of the family is the only healthy person in a family tree of nut jobs.
2007-11-22 00:26:50
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answered by lovelymrsm 5
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I've never believed in "the black sheep of the family". Some kids seem to be less obedient then the others; they seem to have more intuition and see things in different ways than the others. Not bad seed, no. Usually the parents don't really understand this kid and give a bad name. It's unfortunate because the kid, actually, needs more attention than the others. He's not a folower, therefore has his own mind!
2007-11-22 00:15:19
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answered by kayneriend 6
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The parents who leave the parenting to the school system and the kids' peers, will indeed reap what they sow. They will spend more time hauling the kids to rehab clinics, bailing them out of jail, and probably supporting the little rats into their 30s.
Of course there are kids that just naturally walk to the beat of their own drummer. Being unique can sometimes brand you as a black sheep just because you don't follow anyone else's conventions.
My brother was one of those kids that dogs would cross the street to take a bite out of... and he got into all sorts of trouble with the law.
2007-11-22 00:23:43
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answered by revsuzanne 7
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No you cannot blame the parents for the actions of a child. You are what you are. Genes ! are what makes us feel and act how we do.I know very good parents who have had a rebellious child. People whose children are well behaved and responsible seem to get "Oh so Holier than Thou " and blame other parents for their kids misgivings. That is so wrong the other parents have been dealt a good hand and have no right to criticize parents less fortunate than themselves.
2007-11-22 00:08:42
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answered by Anonymous
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I mean certain things could be their fault like not spending enough time with them if they have abusive parents things like that. Kids know what right and wrong is though and at a certain age choose their own path. You can't blame others for your actions.
2007-11-22 00:27:45
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answered by kittens 3
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I don't think it is always the parents fault. Our genetic makeup and our environment both play a part. I would think if this couple has other good kids that are successful and one kid is not.....just some bad genes.
2007-11-22 00:02:09
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answered by Julie H 7
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No, children have a brain and should be able to make proper choices with the right upbringing. It doesn't mean that the parents didn't instill values in that child. That child chose that instead of doing the right thing, that they would do opposite of what their parents taught them.
2007-11-22 00:51:39
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answered by Anonymous
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not at all, being a bad A$% kid, is sometimes enevitable. parent's aren't able to stop kids from hanging out with whom ever they hang out with. some kids lean more towards the "innocent" kids and others more towards" the bad A$%" ones.
This is a phase every kid goes through, they are going to eventually try drugs and try drinking and get into fights, its just a part of growing up.they make their own mistakes to learn from them.
2007-11-22 00:03:56
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answered by <3 2
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The parents have the responsibility of training the child up in the way he should go. Once the child grows up it is the child's own fault if he goes astray.
2007-11-22 00:10:20
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answered by Ima Stressed Out 5
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