Two days ago I gave a note saying "I like you" to one of my guy friends from school. I did this because he was giving signs that he liked me (eye contact, body language, sitting close to me instead of his friends), and also I always tell guys when I like them. Plus, its what all you guys on Yahoo!Answers always suggest...
Anyways, he has been treating me differently now, even though we have not talked about the note or discussed that I like him. We have only had a few brief conversations, when we used to talk all through class. Things are just awkward now.
Should I talk to him about it directly? Does it sound like he is interested but nervous (he is a junior, I am a senior)? Or does he sound freaked out, and I should leave him alone?
Thanks!!!
2007-11-21 15:39:43 · 22 answers · asked by Eva 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kudos to you for being so courageous and putting yourself out there like that! Most people don't have the guts, and that is a shame. You've told him how you feel, the ball is in his court now. So you have to back away now and give him a little time. Especially now that it's a holiday weekend, your timing is actually pretty good because it gives him a few days to calm down and think about what he wants to do. See what happens on Monday. Until he makes some kind of move, I would back off and let him initiate conversation at school. Like I said, the ball is in his court so leave it there. Just keep being yourself, don't act like you're waiting around for him. I think you will have your answer soon.
2007-11-21 15:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by jbscout1912 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call him on the phone. (Try not to call until after dinnertime). Ask if he's got a few minutes to talk. If he's totally freaked out, he'll say he can't talk now. If he's nervous, he'll likely say he can talk, but only for a little bit. Either way, respect his answer and go from there.
As for the conversation - if he does talk - be straight up with him. Ask him if the thought of you liking him is a problem. Let him know that you thought there was some connection there. If there is - great. If there isn't, you can move on to someone else, but keep him as a friend.
Either way - it's your senior year. You've but 6 or 7 months until you graduate. If you didn't tell him, you'd regret it later on.
Best wishes. Based on your description above (eye contact, body language, etc), I think you were right to let him know. It may just be he doesn't know what to do now...
2007-11-21 15:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by David M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he thought about the note you sent him.
If he says anything rude or negative tell him you were just playing with him and like him as a friend and hopefully things will go back to how they were before with minimal embarrassment.
He might like you back and just be afraid to bring it up because he is uncomfortable talking about it.
Or he might not feel that way and is trying not to hurt your feelings or let you down.
Maybe get his MSN, AOL, or Yahoo messenger address and ask him on there so you don't have to be face to face?
But ask in a way that you can back out if he says he doesn't feel that way.
You can butter him up by saying he's a really nice guy and you like him and if he gets uncomfortable or says he is not into it you can always just say you meant it as a friend or something. That way you would not be doing it to his face and you could find a way to make it less serious and back out if he wasn't feeling it. You could be like "You thought I meant I liked you in that way???hahah don't be silly I was just playing, I like you as a friend not in any other way." Then it would be taken back kind of and your friendship could continue mostly unscarred because he wouldnt feel as weird around you.
So yah, try it on the internet. That way you avoid making him as uncomfortable and you can think more about what you are going to write so you don't embarass yourself. You can be the architect of the whole thing and pull some strings and if he's not into it you can think of a good way out and retreat without damaging a friendship and feeling embarassed whenever you are around him.
2007-11-21 15:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by AskThomas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard to tell since I dont know him personally but let me give you me professional advice. Obviously he is acting differently now and we can link it to what you said in that note. Now he may like you also but might be shy, or might not like you and is feeling uncomfortable because he dosen't want to upset you. I think its a good idea to talk to him about it. He might be a little uncomfortable but you will have a chance to resolve that issue and move on with life. Look at it as a win/win siutation, he might like you and when you directly talk about it he hopefully will say so and you two can get more serious with your relationship. Or he might say he dosen't like you and you would know where he stands and can go back to being friends and you can move on with your life and not let the suspense kill you.
2007-11-21 15:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've scared him. Guys can come on strong, but as soon as a girl lets them know they like him, they run away or act really nervous, as they don't know what to expect, or how to act. I've learned never to put anything in writing that may come back to haunt you. Just play it cool for a while, and don't say or do anything. Pretend like you never wrote the note. The embarassment will subside on both sides if you don't make a big deal out of it.
2007-11-21 15:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Id say that the awkardness is a sure sign of interest.
He is acting different because hes afraid to "screw it up". Before he was able to free wheel it, but now he may be worried that anything he says will mess things up. If he were uninterested, he would be acting the same and not worrying about what you think.
Trust me, this is a good thing. It means that he's concerned about what you think of him.
Maybe try to steer the conversations back to how they used to be to let him know that you were really interested in the "real" him.
2007-11-21 15:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by malachai 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think you misread his signs. I would back off and leave him alone. If he's interested, he'll make a move. I don't think a note to say you like someone is the best way to go about things, either. In the future, I wouldn't do that. Best of luck to you and I hope that you find someone who is interested in you too soon.
2007-11-21 15:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by kristin m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he likes the friendship. You pushed it. But maybe he just didn't like the note.(because he felt he could talk to you about stuff)...I wouldn't like the note. But if you do talk to him about it, and he can't handle it, that's a bad sign.
Some guys, like to make the first move...also. I'd just back away and see how it goes.
2007-11-21 15:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by cgirl97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect it's a lack of maturity. You have to take it further. When you're away from the crowd, ask him straight out what he thought of the note. Once you have created a dialog things will become clearer.
2007-11-21 15:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well things of course are going to be awkward, he now knows you like him, but he has nooo clue what to do, who should make the first move, do you really like him, he doesnt know what to say, i say go talk to him becasue he is a lost soul right now, confused, hmm much the same as myself
good luck, and make sure you talk to him asap
ET
2007-11-21 15:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋