My boyfriend's mother and sister are really starting to get on my nerves. They dont talk to him any day other than Friday when he gets paid. They always ask for money and if he ever says no, they tell him that he is the man of the house and he should pay for whatever they need then they hang up (until next payday). He moved out of the house 10 years ago, he's not responsible for them. I told him to quit giving them money and he hasn't given them money in a couple weeks so now they've resorted to asking him to buy them things instead of asking for cash. He often talks about getting married but he says he wont do it until he is in a better financial position. I don't think he'll ever be in a better position if he keeps giving them money. We've only been dating for about 5 months, how much can I say?
2007-11-21 15:34:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sure your boyfriend realizes that his mother and sister aren't exactly helping his financial situation. You're fed up, and he probably will be too before long. Maybe you should try talking to him about it, find out his reasons for continuing to help them out? Maybe he can find some other way to help them. like finding them better jobs or something. On the other hand, it's only been 5 months. Even if marriage is in the picture already, give it some time. If he's the right one, he'll choose what's right for you both :)
2007-11-21 15:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've only been dating for 5 months, and he's not made a committment to getting married, then I'm afraid that you have little sayso in what he does with his money. If his mother and sister are only after his money, then he will come to this realization one day on his own. He will appreciate you a lot more if you will be supportive and not critical in the meantime.
2007-11-21 23:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just get it out of the way right off the bat. Don't let it continue further into your relationship. I sort of have the same problem only my husband doesn't give his family money, I won't let him. Our own family has to take priority or else. Instead his sister along with her five kids ask for handouts from our only son. It upsets me because we work hard to give our son the best we can and he just gives it away.
2007-11-21 23:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by helpful one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like ur the one who want the money instead..so i wouldnt say anything if i was you until he IS your husband dont tel him how to spend his money..and wouldnt you want to help out your family even if they werent nice to you...it says in the bible im not sure of the exact words but if someone slaps you turn the other cheek...this is exactly what ur bf is doing good on him hes a better man and it shows.
2007-11-21 23:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve got him on the right track. hes learning not to be so gullible and give in money. if you are interested in pursuing a relationship with him, you should be totaly honest with him. if youve been dating that long im sure he really likes you. find a way to tell him more sensitive things in a way that wont offend him.
2007-11-21 23:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by becky =) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is time to cut off the money flow and make them learn to make it on their own.Especially the sister.
Do not make kids with this man, and do not shack have sex with or marry him UNTIL he has proven he can be YOUR man and support you and any kids you make FIRST, by learning to deal with mom and sis and his own finances.
2007-11-21 23:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋