guys would you her in getting help or would you just be negative and say stuff oh the state is going to commit you or your never going to have a sex life oh your never getting married. or would you just be supportive of her and stand by her if she was your wife, fiance, or girlfriend. what would you do.
2007-11-21 15:26:31 · 9 answers · asked by jerseygirlprincess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would say this.
Honey, I am here for you. You have a problem, but it's not insurmountable. Please, get the help you need. I will help you find a psychiatrist or counselor. Tell me what you need, and I'll give it to you if I can.
In other words, I'd support her. Mental illness is just like any other illness. It happens and it is nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-11-21 15:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by hail_loki 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In March I will be marrying a man that I love dearly. He is bipolar. I stand by him every inch of the way on this journey he must endure. Being bipolar does NOT mean you aren't human. It does not mean you can not live a normal life. It does mean that you have to find someone that will help you. Medications now make it much easier for someone who is bipolar to live a almost normal life. However, part of the disease also means you don't remember to take your meds. That's where your partner comes in. They make sure you go to your appointments, and that you take your meds. Stand by your partners side if they are dealing with bipolar disorder. It's not their fault. If you can't stand by them, then you really don't love them. If that is the case...walk away and stay away. They will have a harder time dealing if you treat them bad just because they have an illness that they can't control. My man was terrified to tell me of his disorder because of what his x-wife put him through when he was diagnosed. He was convinced that I would leave him if I ever found out. He had no idea that my best friend of 15 years was diagnosed 4 years ago. He had no idea that my father was diagnosed when I was 8. All he knew was that his first wife and his x girlfriend couldn't handle it. It's really not fair to treat someone badly because of a disability...and it is a Government Recognized Disability
2007-11-21 15:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by thenora 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If this is a "told ya so, honey" question... dont bother. Get out now! People with even mild mental or social disorders can not have negative people around them. They are not productive, thus unhealthy!
I have bipolar illness... and when its bad, my fiance is the most supportive, helpful person in the world. he gives me space, but never wanders too far in case i just want to be held. And when it gets good (mania), he jokes with me and keeps me happy (as these moments are very rare, and kinda relished). In between, are there jokes?? Absolutely! No, he doenst think mental disorders arent serious, he just understands that sometimes a good light hearted joke lightens the mood. it lets me know that he understands whats goin on, and that its not the end of the world.
In order to survive a psychosis, you HAVE to have a strong support system around you. people who will help you up, or help keep you from falling when you are down. Someone who just pushes you down will only make things worse. If you do stay with him, you probably will get worse - resulting in you not havin a sex life, not getting married, and you will be commited by the state after you get fed up with him and kill him one day.
2007-11-21 17:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is bipolar, and she is a wonderful person, loving mother and a fantastic home maker..there would be no reason in the world to not marry her. Bipolar is just a chemical imbalance, that meds can keep in check. It takes a person who is understanding, loving and caring to stand beside someone no matter what the circumstances are. If you do not feel that you are that strong...or that you are at a point in your life to do just that, then by all means...do not get married.
I married for better or worse, in sickness and health. When my husband was in a serious wreck...I stood beside him. Took care of him, our children, the home, the house, the car...you name it - without expecting anything from him, I loved him and it was my pleasure to be able to be someone he could trust in and lean on. Unfortunately a year later when I had a bad pregnancy, followed by a hysterectomy for endrometreosis and cancer....he could not reciprocate. As I gained weight due to drugs (which I have sense lost) and was unable to have sex temporarily (which by the way he couldn't either after his wreck and that did not matter to me..it was temporary)
I found myself alone while he was out chasing other women. I had to call on family and friends to take care of me and my children and home. Needless to say when I got back on my feet...I filed for a divorce and found a good man who I know will be by my side no matter what. If you can stand the test of time get married, if you can't then don't make that promise.
2007-11-24 16:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would ANYONE say things like "the state will commit you"?
Boyfriend, coworker or stranger on the street.
If the boyfriend felt he couldn't be in a relationship with someone who was ill, I can understand that. Being around chronically ill people can be a challenge and not everyone is up to that.
But then, get out of the relationship. Don't sabotage the woman's health issue.
2007-11-21 15:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
any man who would not stand by a woman with BPD is a low-life. It's a genetic biochemical disorder that needs meds.
2007-11-21 15:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
my wife is my number one (not me) so if she was bipolar and wanted help for it, i would make sure she got that help and make sure that i was contributing to that help through positive conversations. but you also have to know that in any relationship there will be arguements...(i'll end with that)
2007-11-21 15:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by talofa lava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a low-life creep would NOT support his girlfriend.
2007-11-21 15:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by jon_mac_usa_007 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No
2007-11-21 15:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋