Was I a jerk to this girl?

Question

I broke up with her telling her it wasnt fair for her because I knew she got upset I didnt have a lot of time to spend with her and that I wasnt sure I felt the same anymore but I wanted to remain friends if she could and maybe things would work out later. Initially she was fine, she was crying but not angry. The next 2 or 3 weeks she continued to get angry because couldnt understand how I loved her one day and not the next, how I seemed not to be affected by it all and kept lashing out/insulted a few times. I finally cut contact and said you do the same thing over and over, im not trying.She begged me not to break contact. I regret how I did it because I blamed her. I was her first love and first guy she slept with. She was also devastated when she found out 3 weeks post break up I hooked up with some other girl. I want to contact her and apologize. What do I do? I feel so bad. Was I a jerk?

Answer 1

You were a bit of a jerk, but the reason she's so angry is that you broke her heart and then appeared unaffected. Regardless of how you actually felt about her, she thought from your behavior that you got over her quickly, therefore you never loved her as much as she loved you. You could apologize if you want, but I doubt that it's going to help. Her heart is still broken.

Answer 2

Turn about is fair play, usually it's the girls that dump the guys and then want to "remain friends". As if that's going to happed in the near future. However, I'm curious how you'll feel when she starts dating a hunk of a guy with money, nice car and charizma and seems more happy with him than she was with you.

Answer 3

i think u did most stuff right, but 3 weeks after u break up with someones first anything let alone 2, ya gotta give them a dignafied break up. best thing you can do is make her hate you

Answer 4

Don't feel bad. You can't give her what she needs. It isn't meant to be.