This guy I like was supposed to come to my house to hang out with me and mutual friends from work for a drink. He was all for it when we left work but he didn't show up. I told my friend that was my sign that he wasn't interested or he would have come.
The next work day he apologized for not coming & said he got home from work late (which I know is truthful) and said he made the mistake of going home and then crashed and had to work in the morning. He said he owed me twice now and said how about going out the next night instead (with the gang I assume- though he didn't specifically say that). I wasn't able to go the next night and nobody went out. Since then though he has mentioned a couple of times how he's sorry he missed it and has even teased me about a couple of things from the evening that he heard about.
Am I right to assume that his not coming is the "bigger" sign that he isn't interested or is his teasing me about it a good sign and I shouldn't give up? Whats my next move?
2007-11-21 15:00:52 · 3 answers · asked by jenny s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could be a psychopathic liar, but I think you're paranoid or defeatist to assume his not coming is the bigger sign. If you can forgive him, then you ought to go out right away.
The idea of postponing a date until Feb. 15 is absurd. I've never heard of a guy refusing a date because it's close to Valentine's Day.
2007-11-21 20:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a break! I bet there's been times when you've been exhausted and didn't feel like eating supper, let alone get all dolled up and go out. At least he was honest and truthful to you, he could have made up some big lie like he had to go save the world or something. The guy has asked you out again, so why not do it even if it is just something like meeting him at a local resturant or bar. That way if things aren't what you expect, you can leave in your own car. If you keep stalling he's going to assume you aren't interested and back off, way off. Nothing makes a guy feel like an idiot more than subtly pursuing (he could be quite bashful and afraid to ask you out point blank) a woman and she not seem to even notice he's there. A lot of women like to have men pursuing them but string it out so long that the guy finally gives up.
2007-11-21 23:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems to be interested but not willing to do anything about it... move on and see if he actually notices... this is a crazy time of year for most people and then after the holidays a lot of guys are afraid to start dating someone right before valentine's day..
move on and if he expresses interest down the road (after V Day) consider if you want to bother giving him a chance.
2007-11-21 23:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋