Do you think your sexual partner needs to know your sexual history?

Question

I said he doesnt need to know the exact # just that I KNOW I have no diseases. He argued that he does need to know because I could have slept with 50 guys and have stds.. I then told him that I could have slept with only 2 and caught 5 things. As long as i always used protection and have been tested and have nothing he doesnt need to know... right? Or wrong?

I have Never asked him or any former partners their history... I dont care about the past as long as they are disease free!

Answer 1

This is a touchy point.

what if you found out he slept with over 100 women before he met you? Would you opinion of him change?

As long as you are clean and the past doesn't intrude on the future, I'm OK with things.

You had a past before you met me.

Answer 2

Of course you're right! I' m sorry girls above me but I disagree with you. I been with my husband for 8 yrs and even though he is my first, I have never bother in asking him with how many women he slept with before we met. I mean you do get curious but why bother? However, I did ask who was his first and how old he was when it happend but that's all. As long as you know not by him, but by a doctor that your partnet is 100% clean of any stds in general before anything happens between you two, that's all it matters. Anyways why is he bothering so much on that subject? has he try to talk about all he's history? I bet not and if he did that at least 50% might not be true. You and him should now worry about what happens next in the future not what happend in the past and just make sure that none of you mess around with anyone else so you can avoid stds and the whole lot a drama that comes with it.

Well good luck.

Answer 3

Well, yes, you should do this under the following conditions:

if they are doing a Masters or Doctoral thesis on your sexual history, or
if they are writing your biography and you want to include this bit of information.

There is another exception that would allow this information...sexually communicable diseases: he/she would have this right.

Otherwise, you give them whatever version of the truth you wish after...and only after they have submitted their own version of their "truth" to you in writing.

Remember what Einstein said about certainty:

"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former."

No one, save yourself, is privy to any personal information about your history with the above listed exceptions, so,

is your partner doing your biography, working on a PhD, doing a background investigation for the NSA? If not, he need not have information he does not deserve, cannot use except, of course, to make judgments that are unnecessary and worthless in value..

Answer 4

a gf a few women back asked that question during the height of aids epidemic fear
she didnt like the answer i had
it was way too many
for me the number of men my gf slept with wouldnt bother me
but especially for a guy its gonna hurt his ego
so if you have a high number
and it going to bother him
maybe he isnt a good match
on the other hand you shouldnt have to tell some one that number
they except you
no matter what.
again honesty can be an issue
but knowing too much detail of your lovers past is kinda weired too
if he is the jealous type
no way
im not the jealous type but
most guys are
he can always throw the past into your face
thats too weird
say "im not gonna give you detail or a number
you love me the way i am
or dont except me,
and yes i was careful"

Answer 5

It makes good sense to discuss what may or may not have occurred in a person's sexual history. This, however, should be checked out with a "doctor" with both persons in the relationship knowing what results the doctor's tests have discovered. Of course, the doctor won't disclose anything without the "permission" of both of you to tell the "other person" what the results are.

Answer 6

Both of you go get tested together, then both of you go get the results together. You both have the answer you'll both need. Does he need to know how many? maybe-just think if he was a slut and every time you sit down to dinner at a restaurant, he's slept with the girl sitting behind you. Maybe he doesn't want to marry someone who's been loose. That happened to my bf and me this weekend. We were at a Japanese hibachi restaurant and he had slept with 2 of the six people at our grill-table. I was mortified. I even talked with them, luckily he told me after we left. UGH!

Answer 7

The past is the past - it doesn't matter.
As long as you have been tested, it doesn't matter.
Sounds like he is using the STDs as an excuse to find out how many people you have slept with.

Answer 8

For me, understanding my companions sexual history isnt the subject remember once you're with somebody. while you're hectic approximately stds or hiv, then use protection, or no intercourse in any respect. understanding what number, who and how does not something yet make you experience humorous.

Answer 9

Your past is none of his business. Both of you should go get tested together to make sure both of you are ok. Is he open about his past, and has he been tested? Regardless, you don't need to divulge anything you don't want to. What happened before you were together isn't his concern.

Answer 10

I think it's good to be open about your sexual history... not too much detail but i think how many people you sleep with is a big thing.. what do you have to hide? have you been known as a slut and want to start over? well you can't... everything you've done is by choice so don't be ashamed of it.... and don't hide anything....