My Mother is STALKING me, how to STOP her ?

Question

do not hate my mother. I have worked through my feelings of anger and it took me a loooong time. A decade !!!! 1/3 of my life. I just want her to LEAVE me in peace for the rest of my life !!!
She was spoiled growing up and that coupled with an accident that made her nuts crushed spine from riding accident on lower spine screwed up her brain.
A complete spoiled rotten golden girl.
private schools, debutante, ivy league, summers in cannes at the Ritz, triumph sports cars, horses.
Everything in the world revolved around her.
Her parents were in denial and looked away while she raised me.
I'd tell them she hit me and they would say she was having a bad day.
She home schooled me and it was basically like being an indentured servent.
I am fortunate that the parts of her that were educated and brilliant rubbed off on me.
Finally after years being basically a prisoner in her basement she tried to kill me.
I fled home with the help of an online BF. (this was at the birth of online networking -1995)
I felt like I was a lot younger and started my life OVER.
I created a new me.
Younger age (yeah i lie about it and NEVER feel bad because i was robbed of many years of freedom) and changed my name because my mother tried to track me. She somehow firgured that out too
(crazy and genius = evil mix)
Looking back I really should have put her in jail and also sued her estate.
Instead I just moved on and worked my butt off to be on my own.
She still tries to track me down and it gets exhausting.
She just inherited money and uses it to find me.
She left 18 messages on my cell phone yesterday.
My private cell phone.
sigh.....
Long rambling messages that Im defective and judas and I ruined her life and she hopes I DONT enjoy thanksgiving.

How can I stop her ?
The police are NOT being sympathetic, they say since she keeps leaving messages and doesnt threaten me they cant do much.

bella youre a retard

Answer 1

Did you tell the police everything? Like she tried to KILL you? I would think if someone tried to kill me and was now leaving me messages and tracking me down, the police would be trying to find that person and keep her away from me. If you haven't told them everything, do it. Mention how you're tried of being afraid and you just want to relax.

I don't know if this would work or not, but maybe you should confront the police again and ask them if they can find your mother and set up an arranged meeting. Ask them if it can be in a supervised place, and talk to your mother. See if you can work things out.

If you already know that's a stupid idea, i would say the best thing to do is just move to another state. Far away. When you get into a house make sure you get a good security system.

Answer 2

Wow, Some of those answers are not great for you. and not helping you. If I were in your shoes I would go to the police and file a stalking or restraining order on her. Get a recorder and when she calls next record what she is saying and just leave the phone by the recorder and walk away. Come back and when the conversation is over record the date and time when she called. Keep a log book. note when you changed your phone number and when she started calling again. this will be the best thing if you take her to court you can prove you have been stalked by your mother. I will pray for you and your sicko mother. she needs help.

Answer 3

File harassment charges and then the police can do something.
They don't have enough sense to tell you that you have too file harassment charges first.
Also, try to realize, she is the finished product her parents made.She is old enough to realize she has faults and needs to make some changes.As far as being home schooled hon, I am sorry it was unpleasant, but then again think of the columbine kids, even the kids who were shot at the Amish school, it could have been better, but then again it could have been worse depending on what public school you had went to.
If you are willing to forgive, then tell her the ONLY way you will have contact with her is through family counseling and she will have to be open minded and honest with herself and YOU get to pick the counselor.She blames others for her misery and this what she needs to quit doing.Try to realize though she has lost a lot and probably is dealing with it the only way she knows how.I think she loves you, in a selfish way, but she does love you hon.

Answer 4

Wow those are really bad answers above mine did they just read it omg!!The police cant do anything about it!So this is what you should do find some evidence/proof that shes stalking you!If you have a digital camera,take videos try to do it secretley!Im sorry to say but she is a really bad mother im not being mean but im sorry if she where my mother omg ill go nutz id tell my teacher or something or a friends parent what ever you can do to stop her from stalking you!You know i hope you servive!Im not kidding if you die even if i dont know em i cry

Answer 5

Wow.. sorry. I used to have a mental mother-in-law. Even if you aren't threatened, the fact that she is STALKING you is against the law.. Even a husband cannot STALK his wife (follow her everwhere) when she goes out which my ex did before our breakup and eventual divorce. Stalking takes many different actions.. This also might be considered Harassment.. You may be able to file a restraining order against her.. Why not check with an attorney about this if the police aren't helping you.. You also might be able to have her commited it she is really unbalanced.. Talk to an attorney.. Good Luck..

Answer 6

how previous are you? if you're of age then i could basically tell her you would get exhilaration from very a lot for her to provide up... in the journey that your no longer then i trust that she has a top, I recommend there are countless sickos accessible and through her checking on you web page truly does teach that she cares

Answer 7

You must love your parents, as you love youself and God. I know how you feel, but this is just a phase of dislikeing your parents actions.

This means that she cares about you. Maybe if you told her were you are.. she wouldn't have to track you??

her spending money on you means she loves you.. Trust me.. its a sign.

its creepy.. but its a sign. and everyone deserves to be loved. so just love your mother as she has cared for you.


Someday.. long after she has left this life, you will regret saying these things about her. And belive it or not.. you'll miss haveing your mother around.

Answer 8

wow, that's amazing, I think you better pick up that phone, and tell her to leave you alone, tell her your a grown woman and need your space, if she refuses to leave you alone then just ignore her, change your number, change your name if you have to.