My great grandma is in the hospital dying right now and my uncle has a terminal cancer and he's dying and I'm crying a lot and I want to be alone and I want to visit my dying great grandma at the hospital and my dad wants me to come to his mom's house for Thanksgiving. He's getting ill and violent and I'm already crying over my family member's dying! Help.
2007-11-21 14:09:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am very sorry for your potential losses,but hun you do have to realize that it is part of life, and maybe its ok for you to grieve already.Also at least they have lived a long life, and got to meet you.There is nothing that will be said to make you feel better.They are going to a better place, we cry because we will miss them.but where they are going there is no more pain.I will pray for you and for them,may God surround you and them with the white light of the Holy Spirit.
2007-11-21 14:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by mozartbuffy69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lThis is my personal opinion of death,. Dying is a part of life. I believe that these bodies are not who we are. They die but who we are, goes on to another life. Look up John Edwards on the net, he has a natural talent of seeing those who have left us.
Those people you mention, that have left this earth, are right around you at this moment, looking out for you and probably being very sad that you are taking death so hard.
Visit your great grandma, kiss her on the cheek and tell her that you will be seeing her sometime. Treat the family members that are still alive, with respect and love, and know that you have them for a while longer, but that for now, you enjoy their company and try and make their lives happy by your attitude towards them.
There is nothing one can do about the body, eventually dying, but one can recognize that this is not the end, just the beginning of something else.
Peace and love,
Dirtysla - Please don't listen to this person. Sadly religion feels that if you don't agree with what they believe, you are lost. No such thing. Compassion is supposedly what Jesus taught but you don't find much of that around these days with the Christian population. Feel at peace with what is happening and know that they are there with you. Just because you cannot see them, doesn't mean a thing.
2007-11-21 14:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately death is part of life.
And I'm sorry for your situation.
Everybody handles death differently.
You just need to handle it in a way that's healthiest for you mentally.
You need to try to keep a grip, cause at some point this all will be in the past and you will still be living.
Make sure you see these people if you can to make sure you got to say the things you wanted to say while they're here.
You take care of you, and do what will make you stronger and happier in the end.
Because everybody treats death differently not everybody is going to understand how you deal with it.
Do the things you think you need to do to keep your life together during these hard times.
Take care
2007-11-21 14:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rik S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!!!!!
If you feel like being alone sometimes then do it. But it can help make you feel better if you go out and be with family or friends. You should deffinately spend time with those who are ill tho, if you don't, you'll most likely regret it later! And I'm sure they want to see you too. Its gotta be really scary to know you could be dying. And if you need additional help, pray to God, He's the one who can truly help you feel better!
2007-11-21 14:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by flierchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww. I understand completely what you are going through. What you need to do is find a good friend or someone you can trust and pour your heart out to him/her. At times like these, one needs someone to lean on. One needs support and comfort. Find someone who's dear to you and lighten your heart. It's truly amazing how much of a relief you feel once your done. Keep yourself together and don't lose hope. Remember, you need to stay strong. Your beloved great grandmother needs you to stay strong for her, to help her through this time. Your uncle also needs you, my friend. You need to stay strong, to keep the light of hope burning in their hearts. Stay strong, keep yourself together. I understand it hurts a lottt, but I will pray that everything will get better. Take care.
2007-11-21 14:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Aman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God.. I am so sorry that you have to deal with so much at such a young age, and at this time of year too! I do not know if you believe in prayer are not, but it has always helped me.
My prayers are with you and your ill family members :)
2007-11-21 14:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be calm. Everyone has to leave. Cry like girls won stop it. Deal with this. Just do not get frustrated. Handle with care and calmness.
Some has to hold the wheel. It's better be you.
2007-11-21 14:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by JH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is probably also sad and wants to act normal, which may be his way of dealing with the pain..but im not really sure, he probably thinks it will just make u upset on thanksgiving . and if u want to be alone then well idk, sorry
2007-11-21 14:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by lost in a haze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not go if he is going to be violent or if he ill do not go near him if he is really ill and avoid him
2007-11-21 14:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by gerald c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell ur dad how you feel
good luck
2007-11-21 14:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by thegirlfromthegrayhouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋