If you have the patience, read this, i know it is long, but i want you to tell me what you think of it!?

Question

I went out with my ex on/off for 2 years I lost my virginity to him. he made me upset and I wasnt sure if i was even going out with him. I needed space which made him text me about once every week for 2 months he asked me to hang out but i said i was busy after that we didnt talk it and was if we were invisible. i broke the ice by later texting him hey congratulations on winning the game he replied right away saying thanks lol i saw you in the stands the next day i texted him about homework and he told me the homework as well as saying tell your mom i say hi. i thought things were off to a better start and decided to talk to him at school. i said i told my mom you said hi shes wondering how your doing he said oh tell her im doing good.the conversation lasted 5 seconds cause we each had to go opposite ways. i didnt hear from him for 3 days.he texted me about homework and then said he didnt see me at the game and wanted to know if I'll be going to the game this Saturday. Move on?

Answer 1

I have patience, so I read your question twice. I'm sorry you got so involved with this guy, because it was too much too soon. There's a reason why older people (like me, I'm 41) discourage young people from having serious relationships and having sex -- it's very emotional and heartbreaking, and it's hard to get over your first love. He is as confused and heartbroken as you are, I'm sure. I think you know the answer already, that you should move on. In the future, protect yourself from being hurt by taking relationships slowly. You owe it to yourself, so that you don't end up with a whole bunch of baggage, like hurt feelings, inability to trust and bad memories, which will make it harder for you to meet the man of your dreams. And you will meet the man of your dreams one day, and you want to be ready and able to love him fully and completely, because you're going to expect the same thing from him.

Answer 2

I Know It May Be Hard But Sometimes The Best Thing Is To Let Go. A Similar Thing Happened With The Guy I Lost My Virginity To. I Felt Like I Was Being Played And I Didn't Like It At All.SO I Moved On. But If You Really Think Its Going Somewhere Just Listen To Your Heart. In My Opinion Though The Only Thing A Girl Should Be CHasing Is Her SHots. haha Let Him Come To You. Don't Let Him Feel Like He's Got You On A Leash Because Then He'll Come Back WHen He Needs Something (usually sex) And Make You Think He Still Loves You And Whatever But All He DOes IS You. But Thats JUst What Happened To Me. Who Knows Your Guy May Be Different.

Answer 3

Of course, move on. But if you like him, just date several men. If he is interested beyond this friendship, he will let you know. But to keep him interested, be busy, having a good time, and having a life. He will either want in your life or not. In the meantime, you are enjoying maturing and picking and choosing who you will eventually settle down with.
Don't mix losing your virginity with anything else. So, you did the 'big' thing with him. Now, move on, keep your legs closed so he doesn't think you are easy, and don't use this as thinking you are in love with him. There is a big difference between lust and love, and when you are intimate with someone it used to mean something. It was sacred. Now, in today's generation, it means little. So don't emphasize that aspect of your relationship. Think friendship, not relationship. And then let everything work itself out.
And what is your future? What education are you getting? What career field? Wow, many choices, not just about a man.
Have a great day. And a great life. Enjoy many firendships, including this lovely person. And let him do the chasing.

Answer 4

I think both of you are just trying to take it slow, to see how. I mean 2 years is rather a long time, plus the sex, it becomes important. So even though you've broken up it seems like you're just testing the waters to see what can or should happen.

THe question is, does either him or you want to get back together? Am confused cos you said "Move on?" so what do you want? To try again or to move on and just be friends or totally cut off contact? I think once you think and know the answer you'll know what to do. In any case you can just continue this slow contact...see how and where it goes.

Answer 5

In the past I would say "yes, move on." But, I must to tell you! I had a friend who was sorta seeing this guy, and he demonstrated similar behavior and they ended up getting married! It sounded to me that her now husband did not display much interest. That obviously not the case! Of coarse, they had not been intimately involved and knew themselves pretty well and what they were looking for in a relationship.

From my own experience with my ex, whom I had been with for some time and lost my virginity to. There are more fish in the sea. My Dad told me that, and at the time I didn't believe it because I was so in LOVE & LUST. There are many, many more fish in the sea!" Think about what traits you are looking for in a man and don't settle for less! It is also alright to be his friend just don't degrade yourself by getting involved with him
emotionally or physically without setting clear guidelines and understanding of the nature of the relationship. In other words don't sleep with him if he is not committed or give him girlfriend privileges.

Answer 6

Sounds like he's probably wondering the same about you. He seemed pleased you were at the 1st game, disappointed you weren't at the 2nd, hopeful you'll be at the 3rd. If you like him, and it seems like you do, go to the game and don't wait so long to touch bases with him after wards. Why don't you call him instead of texting and tell him if you'll be at the game? Find out his plans after the game, grab a pizza, and rekindle an old flame. Have a Great Time!

Answer 7

You both seem a bit out of sync. the on again off again phases are pointing to your not clicking anymore. Only you can tell if you should move on, How do you feel about this no contact for days, are you sure he is still interested in you two as a couple? He seems distant doesn't he?

Answer 8

You've really got to ask yourself/remid yourself what he did to upset you in the first place. If it was a big thing; like he cheated on you or said something really bad about you to someone else, then I would suggest moving on.

If it was something silly, why not give him another chance? Sadly, when sex comes into the equation though, you can never really be sure whether he likes you for who you are or what you cna potentially offer him in the future.

Ask yourself: do you think he likes you for you? Does he laugh at your jokes, talk to his friends about you, smile when he sees you.... all these things will help you now and later in life.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

Where did you think this relationship was going at your age?

Why would you have sex anyhow. You're both just kids and it doesn't seem like he has "dumped" you like most guys would do once they have had their way. Just remain friends. You should not be complicating your life with sex. Focus on school and enjoy this time in your life. Once you're married with kids you'll be wishing you didn't waste your youth on such nonsense believe me. You'll have kids, debts and worries for the rest of your life. Have fun while you're young and study hard so you won't be in the poor house your whole life long.

Answer 10

Move on! Your history together is very unstable. You describe it as "on/off for 2 years...........I needed space...". You are considering going back with him because it is familiar and because you lost your virginity to him. Neither is a good reason to get back together, if there was never really a committment between you. You both need and deserve something better. Good luck!